If your MIL was bordering on abhorrent to you every time she saw you, would you nurture her relationship with your DC?
Among many other things MIL has told me repeatedly she wished DH had never married me, that she hates how I dress, hates that I don't wear make-up, that she hates breast-feeding. She has locked me in rooms at really crucial times (my wedding day, DC's christening, meals with family) "by mistake" and is very physical, shoving me out of the way, again "not intentionally." Luckily we don't see her often, but when we do, I hate every minute of it.
DH sees what she is like, as she is like this with him sometimes although not as often. He confronts her whenever she says or does anything to hurt me and they have a screaming argument (in their native language, so I don't understand what they're saying.) She then begrudgingly apologises, but does it again the next time she sees me, usually out of the view of DH.
She is quite a loud, frightening person, and the DC are a bit scared of her. (Think grabbing them and covering them with lipstick kisses.) Her perfume is overwhelming and very hard to be in an enclosed space, which the DC also find a bit overwhelming.
MIL is desperate to have a relationship with them. DH is trying to nurture it and talks about her to them a lot. But I just can't bring myself to talk nicely about her. Should I be over-riding my resentment and letting the DC make up their own minds?
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WIBU to not nurture the DC's relationship with MIL because she is so awful to me?
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notveryclever14 · 22/09/2016 22:46
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