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PrincessOG16 Wed 21-Sep-16 08:17:25

To DH so I can clean up properly?

He tries to help and is useless, I like doing it my own way. DD is at nursery and he's not leaving till 10am

Ugh I want my freedom back.

He's off work till late next week. Has only been off 3 days and is already getting on my nerves.

So, DH, fuck off out so I can clean this house from top to bottom the way I like doing it!!

qwerty871 Wed 21-Sep-16 08:18:33


EdmundCleverClogs Wed 21-Sep-16 08:20:37

Yabu. Does the cleaning really need to be started at 8am confused. Let him enjoy a morning in his own home, and chill out for the next hour and a half....

AgentProvocateur Wed 21-Sep-16 08:24:04

If he's there till 10am, go out for breakfast or coffee together or do something less dull than cleaning. Would you really rather clean your house than spend time alone with your DH?

JudyCoolibar Wed 21-Sep-16 08:24:42

Does it really need to be cleaned from top to bottom today? Can't you do the bare minimum and then do something nice with DH, leaving the rest till next week? For sure my house isn't going to be cleaned from top to bottom this week, in fact probably not till next month: I think we'll survive.

acasualobserver Wed 21-Sep-16 08:26:37

He can't be in all of the rooms all of the time. Pick a room he isn't in and clean that.

Justaboy Wed 21-Sep-16 08:44:57

Tell him that he''s bloody lucky that he's got you to clean up anyway, as a single man i have to do that all myselfsad

I'd love to have someone around to do it here, their way would be fine!.

diddl Wed 21-Sep-16 08:46:49

Of course YABU.

Why should he have to go out?

Is he really bad at cleaning or just doesn't do it the way you would?

Oysterbabe Wed 21-Sep-16 08:48:32

It's too early for cleaning. This time of day is for coffee and watching the news.

gamerchick Wed 21-Sep-16 08:49:12

Ah there's always cleaning to do. I would prefer taking the husband to bed for an hour. Puts both in a better mood.

Goingtobeawesome Wed 21-Sep-16 08:51:13

When DH is here I can't get on like I would normally. Never really thought about why. It's his house though, bit mean to force him out.

Stillunexpected Wed 21-Sep-16 08:52:52

Chill. If he's only off for a week, presumably you cleaned the house from top to bottom the way you like it last week and can do it again next week? It's hardly going to disintegrate in a week is it? Sit down, talk, go for a walk or have a coffee instead!

Arfarfanarf Wed 21-Sep-16 08:53:00

As long as you dont complain that you have to do everything.

###childhood flashback###

No don't help you do it wrong I'll only have to do it myself why does nobody do anything stop youre doing it wrong no never mind I'll do it im fed up of being the only one who does everything look youve made a mess i like to know its done properly i wont be able to rest arrggh arrgh strop strop why dont you just do things without me asking no dont just do things i have a system if you cared you'd know what i want i shouldnt have to ask no dont just go and do stuff its the wrong stuff strop strop huff huff look at the mess <big sigh> i suppose I'll have to clean up mutter mutter no just leave it...

Topseyt Wed 21-Sep-16 08:54:47

That does seem rather mean, even if it were tongue in cheek.

PacificOcean Wed 21-Sep-16 08:57:32

Maybe you should try to chill out a bit confused

Kintan Wed 21-Sep-16 09:00:23

Poor guy, hasn't he got as much right to be there as you!?

tibbawyrots Wed 21-Sep-16 09:03:18


YY. The soundtrack to my teenage years.

MiscellaneousAssortment Wed 21-Sep-16 09:25:03

Good Lord arfarfanarf, were you hiding in the hall cupboard for he first 18yrs of my life?!

I hope there'll be a generation that grows up without this type of household terrorism.

Me & my dad always 'did everything wrong' and 'couldn't be trusted to do it right' so it was always 'easier to do it myself' (according to my dear mother)... yet we were then raged out for hours at a time for 'not helping' and the real whammy 'treating me like a skivvy' and / or 'this home isn't a hotel'.

Basically, no way to win. And 'winning' wasn't some kind of evil plot to disempower my mother & keep her as some kind of household slave. 'Winning' would have been pleasing the un-pleasable woman. And taking away the armery she used to beat us into terrified submission.

It was foul and cruel. We lived in a very isolated place and so couldn't escape from her vicious bullying. I have little to no relationship with her now.


pictish Wed 21-Sep-16 09:29:14

Yabu on so many levels I just can't even...
I do not relate.

Imnotaslimjim Wed 21-Sep-16 09:35:45

Either get him to help or wait until he's gone. Surely it can wait and you can enjoy some time with him? I never do housework when DH is home so we can spend time together.

Arf sounds like my childhood too. My mum once stood ranting at me, while I was washing up, that "no-one ever helps in this house" when I pointed out that I was helping by doing the dishes I got a clout round the ear for being cheeky!

usual Wed 21-Sep-16 09:38:32

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

CigarsofthePharoahs Wed 21-Sep-16 09:42:18

Arfarfanarf, have you been spying on my Mum? grin
We never did anything "properly" either.
Op, if you need to start cleaning, then just do it. If you don't want help, then say so.
Or just cool off for a bit.

alfagirl73 Wed 21-Sep-16 09:44:19

I think it's a bit harsh to say he's "useless". You say yourself he's trying to help which means he's doing SOMETHING - just not how you would do it. Sounds a bit like he can't do right for doing wrong.

It's his house too presumably, he's having some time off... instead of moaning about it, schedule some nice relaxing things to do together while your DD is at nursery and you have the opportunity. Even if it's just going for a walk or a nice brunch or something.

pictish Wed 21-Sep-16 09:48:38

Cleaning - nope
Cleaning at 8am - nopey no
Cleaning in a special way that no one else can do, at 8am - no no nopey no

Tell you what though...I'm missing the housework chip and I genuinely envy those who have it installed like you do. Life would be so much easier.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Wed 21-Sep-16 09:52:34

justaboy you mean you would lve to have a woman to do your cleaning for you? What a lucky gal who wins your heart hmm

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