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To feel so fed up and stressed by the constant threat of another indyref

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Stardustlady Mon 19-Sep-16 20:06:15

That's it really. I found the last one horrible, stressful and it permanently damaged some family relationships.

I do not want independence. I think it would be a disaster and not one I want me or my family to pay the price for. I do not want to bring my family up in an independent Scotland. I feel strongly that we would move to England should it happen, which means I can just never feel settled.

I thought we were done with this in 2014, I cannot tell you the relief I felt on September 19th 2014, that finally, it was settled.

But no, we are threatened with another one almost daily; next year, in two years, in 2020, when the polls show 60% support. I find it so worrying, I can't bear to go through all of that again then have to look at uprooting my family (don't want to out self by giving further details of job etc)

I'm not looking for a debate on independence, I did all that in 2014. Just wondered if any other Scottish mnetters felt the same.

Roseformeplease Mon 19-Sep-16 20:13:56

Agreed. I am so, so upset that it is dominating the news agenda. And, I hated it last time. If it wasn't for a few sound friends, and some Mumsnetters, plus DH, I would have run away to Canada or Northumberland....or anywhere. Can't face it again. Wish they would just fix education and stop dicking around.

toolonglurking Mon 19-Sep-16 20:14:50

I feel the same way, the thought of having to go through the whole experience again makes me feel so scared and quite tearful.
I wish the outcome of the first referendum was respected, it's not right to keep having them until the SNP get the answer they want.
My parents have already moved to England because they feel it is inevitable, it makes me so sad.

Lovefromhull Mon 19-Sep-16 20:15:05

After experiencing the brexit referendum this year' I can totally empathise. I found it deeply unpleasant and stressful. Not nice. Is there a real threat of a Scottish independence vote on the cards? I know it was hinted at but has anything firm been set up?

Bestthingever Mon 19-Sep-16 20:20:11

I'm Scottish but don't live there. I thought I read recently that support for independence had gone down. My dps still live in Scotland and were so worried before the last referendum. But according to some people they don't have a right to an opinion because they are pensioners.

giggly Mon 19-Sep-16 20:20:19

Strangely I feel threatened by the daily control by Westminster and the Conservative party. I feel threatened by the transport on public roads of Trident missles. I feel threatened by the people who voted for UKIP. I feel threatened by continued oppression.
Just my opinion though.

ForeverEyesOfBlue Mon 19-Sep-16 20:22:40

I'm Scottish and I don't feel the same at all. I don't personally know anyone who fell out with friends or family during the referendum, and I know a lot of fairly political people. I don't know anyone who would leave if Scotland became independent. I think there will inevitably be another referendum one day, but it doesn't worry me in the least. I've got plenty of other things to stress about!

hambo Mon 19-Sep-16 20:23:32

I think that with the price of oil in the doldrums, and the EU categorically saying we cannot join independently of the rest of the UK, that a second ref will not happen for a long long long time.....

Shenanagins Mon 19-Sep-16 20:25:49

I hated it at the time and the constant threat of indyref 2 thereafter.

Just like the outcome of the brexit a decision was made and we have to live with it whether we agree with it or not.

AssembleTheMinions Mon 19-Sep-16 20:35:02

I don't understand why the Brexit vote is final while the Indy ref isn't? Are the SNP intending to keep voting until they finally win?

I feel ill at the thought of going through it again. No means no. Really it does. What bit is confusing them?

There was another rally in George Square on Saturday which wasn't anywhere nearly as well supported as last years. Gives me hope.

cheeseandcrackers77 Mon 19-Sep-16 20:38:32

I am the same. It needs to be put on a back burner for a good few years. This bloody nonsense by Nicola Sturgeon saying us Scots are being dragged out of the EU is total crap. She told voters up here if you want another indy vote vote remain therefore who actually knows if Scotland would have voted leave or remain she skewed our results for her and her party's own gain.

I voted no and will again. In 10 or 15 years I may change to yes but for now accept the settled will if the people of this country and please stop finding any old excuse to have another vote.

manyathingyouknow Mon 19-Sep-16 20:39:29

Agreed! I don't want Indy under ANY circumstances

smarterthanhim Mon 19-Sep-16 20:39:45

Yanbu. I hated indyref, it was awful. Divisions that have lasted. It'd be economic suicide. Nationalism is never a good thing.

Craftylittlething Mon 19-Sep-16 20:40:25

assembletheminions the reason it's back on the cards is brexit, the majority of scots voted against leaving the EU and the snp always said it would be on the cards if there was a referendum on leaving the EU.

cheeseandcrackers77 Mon 19-Sep-16 20:42:23

Yes Crafty Nicola Sturgeon was very clear vote remain and you will get an indy vote therefore how can we be sure Scotland would have voted remain had she not been shouting this from the rooftops. On many of the pro indy Facebook pages lots of folk are saying they only voted remain to get another shot at indy.

QueenLaBeefah Mon 19-Sep-16 20:43:05


Overthinker2016 Mon 19-Sep-16 20:44:38


It is a crock of shit as the saying goes.

PenCreed Mon 19-Sep-16 20:44:38

YADNBU. I'm Scottish but live in England, it's getting to the point that I feel unwelcome in my own country for wanting No. Admittedly, this is more from very Yes folk on FB etc, but the attack dogs come out if you say anything anti-SNP. Surely what we all need now is stability and calm, not fucking IndyRef2.

dementedma Mon 19-Sep-16 20:46:31

Nicola Sturgeon is not about Scotland.She is about independence and independence only. The MAJORITY of Scots do not want independence as was shown in a democratic vote. By ignoring this, she disrespects the people she claims to represent.

cheeseandcrackers77 Mon 19-Sep-16 20:50:36

Exactly and this weekend's interview with her she basically said independence is more important than oil, Brexit or the economy sad

t4nut Mon 19-Sep-16 20:50:45

Last time I was against Scottish independence. I feltbit would weaken Scotland's position in the world.

If the UK does exit the EU though I would support Scottish independence and a route to Scottish membership of the EU.

alfagirl73 Mon 19-Sep-16 20:53:24

I completely agree with you. I'm from Scotland - was living and working there at the time of the referendum. I now live in England - moved here with my job.

I remember what it felt like at the time, it was a horrible atmosphere and I said at the time I'd never want to go through it again.

I felt elements of it during the Brexit referendum, and I saw some pretty nasty arguments between friends, but it was nothing compared to Indyref. That was just vile. It made me so sad at the time.

Frankly, I'm sick of Sturgeon and her cronies going on about it. No means no!

sugarmonster64 Mon 19-Sep-16 20:57:15

I'm with you all the way on this. What frustrates me more than anything is that Nicola's rhetoric now about uncertainly, economic disaster etc post Brexit replaced it is the very thing they were willing to do to Scotland to gain independence. So it's fine if it means they win but heaven forbid someone else plays with the status quo eh. So unbelievably hypocritical.

SwedishEdith Mon 19-Sep-16 20:57:34

The latest polling is

Britain Elects ‏@britainelects 4h4 hours ago
Scottish independence poll:
Yes: 42% (-5)
No: 48% (+7)
(via Survation / 05 - 10 Sep)
Chgs. from 28 Jun

I suppose as some may have voted Remain because NS said so, some may have voted Leave to piss her off?

AssembleTheMinions Mon 19-Sep-16 21:00:18

Crafty yes I know the majority of Scots voted remain in Brexit, but they also voted to remain in the UK. One result can't be binding if the other isn't surely.

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