I wasn't sure where to put this thread. It's more like 'Are they being reasonable?'
I have a friend I've known for a few years as we went through anti-natal classes together. We both have a baby and a pre-school age child. Recently I feel quite negative about meeting up, as she constantly changes the meeting arrangements last minute.
It seems that she likes to control what time we meet and where, and then change both of those plans several times. It happens EVERY time we meet. Today I was supposed to be going to her house for a play date, but she rang and said she would prefer to meet out somewhere (it's raining). So offered that she could come to mine. She readjusted the meeting time by one hour, and I just have a feeling (based on previous experience) that it will be changed again, and that she may even cancel.
Previously I have been waiting around at a meeting place for over an hour for her. Regardless of what time you arrange to meet, she will shift it. Also, she's previously meant to be coming to my house then on the day says 'come to mine instead' (after i've prepared for her arrival), and even then 'said let's go to the park instead'.
I find it a bit disrespectful. My oldest child gets excited about meeting up and is constantly let down. Also, sometimes I'm preparing or putting myself out in some way, then it all gets cancelled.
I don't feel that I can discuss this with her, as when I've mentioned little things in the past that she took as criticism (she went out to a restaurant when both her children were in the contagious stage of chicken pox and I said [surprised but calmly] that I thought you were supposed to stay away from public spaces), she has reacted very defensively. Should I just distance myself from her? We have grown quite close, but I find this really irritating.
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WittyCakeMeister · 16/09/2016 09:55
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