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Shopping11shopping Thu 15-Sep-16 21:51:22

He thinks that as he has to drive past or sons new secondary school and it makes sense for him to drop him off ( instead of paying £2 per day bus fare ) . It will mean dh gets into his work 10 mins early instead of 30 mins early .
Ds is our youngest and dh has never done the school run.

Dh has just said that he has 'fucked himself in the arse ' as he agreed to take ds to school.

I earn a lot more than dh and my career is taking off so I was hoping to have an extra 30 mins in the mornings for the first time in 10 years . It seems dh won't help wth getting his ds to school .
I feel sad . AUBU ?

DoreenLethal Thu 15-Sep-16 21:53:21

Does that mean you have been fucking yourself in the arse all these years?
What sort of man is this that you are married to? He sounds a right wanker.

BodsAuntieFlo Thu 15-Sep-16 21:54:47

He thinks that as he has to drive past or sons new secondary school and it makes sense for him to drop him off

It seems dhwon't help with getting his DS to school

Completely and utterly confused.

Buzzardbird Thu 15-Sep-16 21:55:06

What a great parent he is!

pinkyredrose Thu 15-Sep-16 21:55:19

He's a twat. It's about time he did the school run. Is he not supportive of your career or something? What difference will 20 minutes make if he's early anyway?

AyeAmarok Thu 15-Sep-16 21:55:25

I don't follow.

He said he would, then changed his mind?

BestZebbie Thu 15-Sep-16 21:55:37

1) YANBU to feel sad that your DH considers doing a basic parental chore in those terms. Especially if he is fine for you to do it - clearly you getting fucked in the arse is just fine by him then.
2) Not sure what your earning potential has got to do with deserving more time in the mornings, especially as generally a higher earner is more likely to be salaried rather than on hourly pay so it isn't as if you'll earn extra money by getting in early.

Shopping11shopping Thu 15-Sep-16 21:56:11

I guess I am shocked he said he has 'fucked himself in the arse ' by offering to drop his son to a school that he drives right past .

sonlypuppyfat Thu 15-Sep-16 21:56:16

I'm struggling to get this too

JenLindleyShitMom Thu 15-Sep-16 21:56:36

Huh? How is being 10 minutes early for work a problem? Did he not expect to have to do any parenting when he chose to be a parent? Or did he assume the children would just slot in around his life and existing habits?

ThereIsIron Thu 15-Sep-16 21:56:51

Just spend the tenner on the bus. Who the hell goes to work 30 minutes early?

RubbleBubble00 Thu 15-Sep-16 21:56:54

So he's agreed to take him to school, he's regretting it as he wont get his early start in work so made a daft comment?

Balanced12 Thu 15-Sep-16 21:57:19

He's already agreed to do it, so he needs to get over it and get on with it.

Additional time to speak to his DS one on one is priceless, tell him to make the most of it before DS works out his 20 mins waiting for the start of work are more important.

JenLindleyShitMom Thu 15-Sep-16 21:57:59

Well he said he would do it so that's what's happening now. Do not do it OP! It's his job now.

Gobbolinothewitchscat Thu 15-Sep-16 21:58:32

Totally confused - is he doing it or not?

If he us doing it, I'd just say "Whatever, dear" re: the arse fucking comments. He's doing it

Mojito7 Thu 15-Sep-16 21:58:43

OP - so is he taking DS to school or not then?

What's the drama if he has to drive past that way?

Why does it all mean?

MrsJoeyMaynard Thu 15-Sep-16 21:59:33

Is he still going to take your DS to school, and just having a bit of a moan, or is he going back on the offer to take your DS to school?

Scarydinosaurs Thu 15-Sep-16 21:59:52

Sorry OP can you explain what this means?

Shopping11shopping Thu 15-Sep-16 22:00:44

Yes I am sad he feels this way . He has to drive right past the school . Ds does not want to be really early but dh likes to be really early to work even though he does not need to be .
I think he is being an complete twat .
He says he can't wait until the children leave home . I feel sad as they were planned . It feels like now they are older / teens he can't wit to get shot of them whereas I am enjoying them more

MyWineTime Thu 15-Sep-16 22:00:55

So he is being an arse with his attitude, but I generally think it is better for kids to get themselves to and from secondary school if at all possible.

FeliciaJollygoodfellow Thu 15-Sep-16 22:01:39

Has he refused to do it? Or do you object to his choice of words?

Shopping11shopping Thu 15-Sep-16 22:02:37

I have said I will take ds to school or pay the bus fare even though I work in the opposite direction as I feel sorry for ds as dh is shouty and moody in th mornings

MyWineTime Thu 15-Sep-16 22:02:48

Did he offer to do the drop off in the first place, or was it just assumed that seeing that he was driving past the school, he would be doing it?

Scarydinosaurs Thu 15-Sep-16 22:03:22

He can say what he likes, just ignore it and let him moan. Don't let him push the responsibility onto you.

ADishBestEatenCold Thu 15-Sep-16 22:03:30

So is that it?

You're asking AYBU for being shocked that your DH said he has 'fucked himself in the arse ' by offering to drop his son at school? Yes?

No not at all. I too would be at least a bit hmm at DH saying this, but as long as he did take the child to school, then I wouldn't bother too much.

Your DH is going to take your DS to school, yes?

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