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Aibu to think this is totally innapropriate?

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sillyofthevalley Thu 15-Sep-16 21:33:08

In brief, friend recently told me that she allows her teenage daughter (almost 17) to have her boyfriend stay overnight- in the bottom (single) bunk bed, in a room shared with almost 10 year old sister in top bunk. Friend says it's ok as the door to the room is left open.

That's not right is it?

Is it?

Snowflakes1122 Thu 15-Sep-16 21:34:36

Nope. Definitely not right!

nennyrainbow Thu 15-Sep-16 21:34:43

So where does the teenage daughter sleep? That is definitely odd.

sillyofthevalley Thu 15-Sep-16 21:35:25

In the bottom bunk with her daughter! shock

Julia001 Thu 15-Sep-16 21:36:13

No, wouldn't happen in my house, totally inappropriate, especially with a 10 year old in the room too !

sillyofthevalley Thu 15-Sep-16 21:36:44

Sorry, how confusing am I making it. Her daughters share a room. They have bunk beds. Teenager has the bottom bunk and boyfriend shares that with her whilst 10 year old is on top bunk.

blankpieceofpaper Thu 15-Sep-16 21:37:07

If I heard about that in my capacity as a teacher, that is potentially a safeguarding issue.

mummymummums Thu 15-Sep-16 21:37:21

Not right - very wrong

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut Thu 15-Sep-16 21:37:26

Eeew no, definitely not ok.

blankpieceofpaper Thu 15-Sep-16 21:37:57

No, that is definitely a safeguarding issue, and possibly abuse.

MoonStar07 Thu 15-Sep-16 21:38:04

Totally wrong!

sillyofthevalley Thu 15-Sep-16 21:38:11

I'm glad it's not just me.

Willywolly Thu 15-Sep-16 21:38:16

No way with a 10 year old in the same room otherwise it would be okay.

pinkyredrose Thu 15-Sep-16 21:38:34

How old's the boyfriend?

yikesanotherbooboo Thu 15-Sep-16 21:39:18

Agree with Blank

Ilovewillow Thu 15-Sep-16 21:40:51

Totally inappropriate, I would have a real issue with this!

sillyofthevalley Thu 15-Sep-16 21:41:50

Boyfriend 17 also. I think she's naive to believe they won't get up to anything and that the 10 year old won't be exposed to it.

ImperialBlether Thu 15-Sep-16 21:42:21

Did you post this a few days ago, OP? I've definitely read this before.

ImperialBlether Thu 15-Sep-16 21:42:23

Did you post this a few days ago, OP? I've definitely read this before.

No, boyfriend shouldn't be staying if the teenagers doesn't have her own room

blankpieceofpaper Thu 15-Sep-16 21:43:55

Now that imperialblether mentions it though... it does sound familiar. Similar thread?

sillyofthevalley Thu 15-Sep-16 21:44:08

First time posting imperial but if you have a link to the one posted previously I'd love to scan the feedback!

sillyofthevalley Thu 15-Sep-16 21:45:11

I've been off mumsnet for a while and tbh only came back on to run this thread, so apologies if the subject has been done recently.

I'm now wondering if the subject is the same person?! shock

booklooker Thu 15-Sep-16 21:52:42

So, if I understand correctly, he is on his own on the bottom bunk, girlfriend plus younger sister are on the top bunk.

Where's the problem in that?

nennyrainbow Thu 15-Sep-16 21:54:14

So they're actaully sharing the bed?? With a 10 yo in the room. And your friend thinks that leaving the door open will prevent them from getting up to anything? hmm totally inappropriate.

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