I'm coming to the end of my maternity leave.
The situation is dh earns around 45k, I was earning around 25k so when we had dc and I went part time, then when dc1 started school I went even more part time to fit around school (so earning more like 13k.
Now with dc2 here by the time we've paid for 2 in childcare it's not even worth me going back financially, in the short term (we will be out of pocket) I've grown to despise my job anyway and only stayed so long because it worked around dc1.
Dh is out the house from 7-7 most days, he has to work one weekend in four and often ends up swapping with colleagues (this suits us at times too), and he has to work away about 4-6 times a year.
I ferry dc1 to after school clubs 3 times a week. The baby is clingy and moans and shouts at me all day. Dh baths the baby if he's back in time, has a shower and falls asleep on the sofa most nights by 9pm snoring his head off.
Dh is happy for me to go back to work or stay at home.
I desperately want a career change but how can I around the dc and dhs hours? There's a couple of careers that really interest me but both are also shifts.
I know I chose this life but it's dawning on me that I've massively fucked up my chances of ever doing something I love. I've destined myself to being default childcare, cook, cleaner and all the rest.
I'm feeling resentful of dh even though it's not really his fault. He earned more so it just made sense.
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Babygym · 14/09/2016 19:26
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