I have a big family (2 sisters, 2 half sisters, 1step sister and a brother). Most of us live in the same city and the rest reasonable distance away, one sister is a troublemaker, she has caused rifts and feuds numerous times in the past between all other family members and is generally quite entitled in what she expects from everyone. The rest of us get on well and until quite recently see each other often. My dad has a warped view of my husband (been married 8 years, together 12, three children together) thanks to my sister. He has believed whatever she has told him in the past (not sure exactly what that was as she will be slagging us off even when we think things between us are fine) dad has now said he hates dh as he "enjoys a drama" (meaning - the drama sister causes). This could not be further from the truth and in fact the only times dh has been involved is when my family have needed help (leaving partners, somewhere to stay, advice, money, childcare etc) to be honest I really do not know why he still tries with them. Recently though I have become increasingly sick of the attnetion my family show each other and how they have completely blanked me and my husband and kids. I haven't seen or heard from anyone in weeks and yet they are all posting pictures of presents they have given each other, trips they have taken together, tagging each other while they are out for meals, shopping together and not once has anyone text me or asked how my children are. My son started reception on Monday and no one has asked after him. Two of them came to my daughters birthday party and the rest didn't even mention it. I mentioned to my dad I think he has no relationship with my children, thinking he may try harder but he just shut me down and it hasn't been mentioned since. He has my nieces and nephews over for tea and sleepovers and not once has he invited any of mine over. Would I be unreasonable to take a step back and let them get on with it? I would miss them obviously if I didn't ever see them but to be honest I have really lovely in laws and loads of brilliant mates who love my kids and want to spend time with us...
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