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regularly being woken by DH's alarm at stupid o clock

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weehedgehog Tue 13-Sep-16 09:05:26

So this morning I was woken by DH's phone alarm which he set to 4.45am. The phone was charging right next to me, where our charger cable is. I didn't immediately wake up, but after about 5 minutes I was wide awake and switched it off. Cue - he gets up to get his phone, then goes to bed again. This happens on a regular basis, as he has to get up early on occasion to finish off some work, but always 'forgets' (doesn't care??) to switch it off as he knows I'll do it eventually, and because he can just fall asleep again easily.

I'm fuming, am super grumpy, as no apology until 2 hours later via skype (and me being super grumpy the entire time). I'm currently pregnant with no 3, struggling with sleep as it is, and I know this is the small window when I could get a bit of sleep during the night between DD1 sleeping through and DD2 arriving (he never does night shifts, so doesn't know how knackering they are for prolonged period - with both mine roughly 15-18 months). I'm also working and am struggling to concentrate :-(

Am I being unreasonable in being such a grump today and for being so angry with him, or should he realise he is a scumbag and needs to think how his actions (or lack thereof) affect others?

mamas12 Tue 13-Sep-16 09:20:10

Tell him if, and you mean if,because you do not expect it to happen again but if it does you will throw it out of the window
I once threw a pair of shoes, one at a time, at my sleeping ex because after countless times of asking him not to leave them in the way of my route to the toilet, heavily pregnant, I once agin tripped over them and fell on my belly and that was the last straw.
He did not do it again

Snowflakes1122 Tue 13-Sep-16 09:32:51

Feel for you. My DH was up at 4:30am this morning clattering about and woke me up. Yanbu.

TheEmmaDilemma Tue 13-Sep-16 09:33:01

YANBU. It's selfish and annoying.

My other half does this. When I don't have to be up before him it's so annoying. He'll hit sleep on the alarm 4 times. Fine for him he goes right back to sleep but for me I'll just be dropping off again when it starts yet again. UGHHHH!!

MeeWhoo Tue 13-Sep-16 09:44:38

Sony have a fitness tracker wristband to go with their phones (maybe it works with other ones too) with an alarm clock function that wakes up the wearer by vibrating on your wrist so it doesn't wake up anyone else.

It doesn't solve the problem the early bird then wakes you up by being noisy, but if the problem is just the alarm a gadget like that might be worth investigating.

Arfarfanarf Tue 13-Sep-16 10:27:22

Stop him going back to bed?

I realise this means you're knackered but that's the case anyway and since he does not care that his actions are making you ill with exhaustion then perhaps he needs to feel the pain.
So when his alarm goes off, get out of bed, put the lights on and radio/ tv/ talk, open windows etc etc. Make sure he cannot go back to sleep.

Since your alarm has gone off, clearly you think this is the time to get up.

It would be nice if he cared that his actions were causing his pregnant wife to be on her knees but since it appears that isnt a priority then perhaps direct action is needed.

Or perhaps the first step would be presenting it to him as that - him not giving a shit (because i am sure he does not see it that way) and hope he sees what he is doing.

And maybe he needs to step up and take his turn at night.

user1470043860 Tue 13-Sep-16 10:36:49

Your husband must cherish you for the support you give him as he get's up in the middle of the night to help pay the bills.

MLGs Tue 13-Sep-16 11:15:34

user that is such a rude, unnecessary, irrelevant and misleading thing to say.

He occasionally has to get up that early, and then leaves his alarm on so it goes off on other days when he doesn't have to. That is selfish and thoughtless behaviour, especially when OP is lacking sleep anyway.

The OP works too, to pay the bills, hadn't you noticed that?

She is heavily pregnant with his child - frequently getting up in the night as a result of that. Exhausted because of it.

She does/ has done all the night wakings with the other kids. Why is that, OP? I sincerely hope he will be doing night wakings with this one. Is he a brain surgeon or works with heavy equipment, etc?


Sparkletastic Tue 13-Sep-16 11:24:11

Tell him that if it happens again he must sleep in the spare room / on the sofa. I would be incandescent.

Arfarfanarf Tue 13-Sep-16 11:24:13

fuck me, woman know your place.

op works to earn money too.

Is pregnant

Does all the night care of the two young children they already have

And should stfu because the Mighty Man leaves the alarm on on days he doesn't even have to get up, because he can go easily back to sleep on account of the fact that he goes out and hunts mammoths and drags them back to the cave or something.

Yeah. Fuck you, OP. Be grateful.

ijustwannadance Tue 13-Sep-16 11:27:56

He is a tit. Get an extention lead so phone can be charged on his side.

Spare room?

Make sure he has switched off alarm before he goes to bed if he doesn't have to be up.

If you get woken up. Keep him awake too.

Meadows76 Tue 13-Sep-16 12:04:24

Yeah. Just put his phone at his side when you go to bed. Maybe even ask if he has remembered to kill the alarms. Should t be charging phones overnight it's bloody dangerous. Have him do that In the evening and then he can take his phone to his side.

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