My DD is 9. She has an older sister who is 20, my exH's DD.
ExDH hasn't seen her for about ten years, as she didn't want to see him when him and her mum split up. I never met her myself until about 3 years ago when she found me online and she started messaging me. We then met up a few times.
After we had been talking for a while I asked her if she wanted to meet DD, and she did but she was very adamant she didn't want her dad involved. So just the 3 of us met up a few times. Although it was awkward at times we got on well and the girls really liked each other. Then we had a falling out. It was my fault, I got in the middle of an argument between her and her dad which I shouldn't have got involved in. she said she never wanted to speak to me again and due to the fragility of all the relationships involved I took her word for it and have completely stayed away. She knew how to contact me so i figured if she wanted to then she would, but she never did. I do know that She has a 1 year old baby girl of her own now.
My DD is now asking about her older sister a lot and saying she wants to get in touch again. I just don't know what to do, I am not sure it's a good idea as I don't want her to feel awful if her sister rejects her, I think it could be really damaging.
I also have no way of contacting her other than finding her on Facebook / Instagram. I don't even know where she lives. And I also don't think she'd take kindly to hearing from me because of how things were when we last spoke. I also of course don't want to upset her and disrupt her life.
I just don't know what to for the best.
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WarholsLittleQueen · 12/09/2016 17:28
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