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AIBU?

Wibu to keep the clothes? Wwyd?

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Creativemode · 12/09/2016 10:48

Very trivial. I've always passed my sons clothes into my little nephew and sil makes good use of them, it's lovely to see the clothes being used.

Now I have another baby boy but there's a large age gap. I can't decide what to do now.

Atm I'm hanging onto all clothes, but as I'm a bit of a shopaholic and there's such a large age gap, the chances are I'll buy new clothes anyway so may end up storing them only to end up giving to charity anyway. On the other hand I do get quite attached to the dc's clothes and maybe I won't always be able to afford new clothes so perhaps I should keep them.

Other option is selling it all on ebay and save the money.

I did say it was trivial but I'm looking at bagged up clothes and feeling a bit guilty for not passing them on.

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RJnomore1 · 12/09/2016 10:50

Would you be able to ask for them back when your nephew outgrows them?

Bonus there is they aren't taking up space in your house but you stil don't need to buy all new for ds2

wayway13 · 12/09/2016 10:56

I kept everything of DDs on the offchance we had another girl. I'm very attached to her clothes plus I'm quite frugal. Everything is in the loft in boxes labelled with sizes. As it turns out, we're expecting another girl in a few weeks (3 year age gap) so I can reuse everything! I'd start keeping everything and packing it away.

MustBeDueSomeBetterFeet · 12/09/2016 10:58

I think it's fair enough to store things and only give away once you've completely finished with them (even if you do end up selling/giving away). I would like to think your SIL hasn't come to expect them, and would understand your position.

We used to get lots of my nephew's clothes, but haven't for ages now. I thought of them as simply a bonus which saved me a few pounds at the time, but I'm perfectly capable of selecting and purchasing my own children's clothes!

PamBagnallsGotACollage · 12/09/2016 11:00

I pass my eldest sons clothes to my brother for my nephew to use and they pass then back for my youngest son to use, plus anything they've bought my nephew. We pass it back again in case they have another.

No need to stop sharing :)

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 12/09/2016 11:00

I always think it's fine to hang onto them if you're going to use them again - I have 5y between my boys, and kept everything from DS1 to use for Ds2 (but didn't really know anyone to pass them onto anyway).

I really wouldn't worry about it at all - you're not keeping them for no good reason, you're keeping them because you will use them!

AlfrescoBalconyWanker · 12/09/2016 11:03

I kept the stuff that I liked and that didn't need ironing washed well/easily, and/or stuff with nice memories; then gave the rest away. Some of it came back again, some other stuff was handed down, I bought some new stuff.

BathshebaDarkstone · 12/09/2016 11:07

Mine have always been passed on, as I had boy, girl, 16 year age gap, girl, boy! All I can pass on now to DS2 is the new school jumpers (uniform just changed).

Creativemode · 12/09/2016 11:10

I could ask them to pass the clothes back but sil really does get a lot of use out of them, which is great, but I think they'd be quite worn out by then. She's quite frugal so will fold up trousers and sleeves and use them until they're way too small.

Sil definitely doesn't expect anything. She's never mentioned it at all. It's just me feeling a bit guilty for keeping stuff I may not use, knowing little nephew definitely would.

I probably shouldn't be so wasteful as to not reuse these clothes myself.

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DollyBarton · 12/09/2016 11:12

Send them on to Nephew and then ask for stuff back as her fellow grows out. Some things will be ruined but some will be perfect as I find you simply can wear everything or get in the habit of the same outfits when using bags of second hand clothes. You will also enjoy buying a few new things when the time comes so if things have the possibility of being used after you by anyone I'd send them on. You will get lots (and some stuffs he got herself) back I'm sure. I just gave my SIL a massive bag of clothes yesterday. Delighted they'll maybe get used. Keep a hold of a couple of your absolutely favourite things if you want.

DollyBarton · 12/09/2016 11:13

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HairsprayBabe · 12/09/2016 11:23

Do you have to keep/send all of it? You said you are a bit of a shopaholic so I imagine there are lots of clothes, why don't you just keep some bits that you really like and pass stuff you aren't that bothered about on to your SIL?

MargotLovedTom · 12/09/2016 11:24

I stopped passing on clothes to a friend after realising they were coming back really worn. She tumbled dried everything and the knees of trousers and jeans were practically threadbare, and there were stains I couldn't get out. Her dc was born in between, my first and second, then I went on to have another dc (all the same gender) so I wanted the clothes to last!

I wouldn't feel bad.

TeenAndTween · 12/09/2016 11:28

I have a 6 year size gap between my DDs.

I keep things like party dresses, coats, wellies.
Day to day clothes I only keep items I particularly like that are still in good condition. DD2 loves wearing big sister's old clothes.

I also keep any item I make/acquire for 'dress up days'. No way am I making 2 Roman togas!

DivorceBadger · 12/09/2016 11:29

I wouldn't keep them if there is a large gap and hand me downs and ebay will be an option for the youngest.

With growth spurts and seasonal issues I find quite a lot of what gets saved isn't actually used.

MargotLovedTom · 12/09/2016 11:31

Oh I got loads of use out of them.

GoldFishFingerz · 12/09/2016 11:33

Just keep the stuff you know will be very handy. Get rid of the rest

OiWithThePoodlesAlready · 12/09/2016 11:35

I have a 5 year gap between my two daughters and I keep quite a lot. Especially things like dresses, coats, shoes ect. Tatty babygros and vests I got rid of. I feel quite attached to the nice stuff and it's lovely seeing dd2 in things and remembering when dd1 wore it.

My two have different dad's and my (then) new dp was quite amused when I moved all our stuff to his house and there were bags and bags of baby clothes. Paid off on the end though!

avocadosweet · 12/09/2016 12:11

I'd pass on the things you didn't really love and keep the favourites. I kept everything for DD2 but am still buying more - DD1 likes to wear matching things so when she sees DD2 in one of her old favourites I have to scour ebay looking for it in a bigger size!

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