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To think some commenters on the AIBU threads are just bitchy

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Wittowoo Sun 11-Sep-16 15:17:30

Some posters really are just plain nasty. Bitchy keyboard warriors. I'm actually gobsmacked by the level of vitriol in some of them. Why do people do it?

DorothyL Sun 11-Sep-16 15:19:38

I ask myself the same thing

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Sun 11-Sep-16 15:22:51

Why not post on the thread in question to tell them so then? I do that - and equally am pulled up on it when my own posts are a bit much.

Why start a thread to complain about something with no examples of what you mean?

Oysterbabe Sun 11-Sep-16 15:23:57

Someone starts this thread about once a day.

CaoNiMao Sun 11-Sep-16 15:24:47

It's so meta in AIBU these days.

There should be an "AIBU about AIBU" section.

ilovesooty Sun 11-Sep-16 15:52:45

Here we go again...

Challenge on the thread and report then.

bluebeck Sun 11-Sep-16 15:55:50

I do hope this isn't a TAAT?

I agree with PP, if you object you should challenge on the thread. I have done this, and have also been challenged myself, it's part of the process.

WorraLiberty Sun 11-Sep-16 15:57:55

Because much like yourself OP (I suspect), they can simply name change once they've said whatever they wanted to say.

Then it's all forgotten about because no-one knows what they've said.

PinkyOfPie Sun 11-Sep-16 16:12:53

YANBU. It's like a snake pit at the moment. There's currently a thread running about the child of an OP who has been given responsibility of helping a Hungarian pupil who speaks no English to speak, read and write in English. The child is 8. Because the OP used the term 'top of her class' about her DD she was been royally jumped on, questioned and accused of bragging. Why do posters do that - take half a sentence in the OP and run away with it?

AuntieStella Sun 11-Sep-16 16:14:16

Why do they do it? Because they can.

Bit like starting the umpteenth thread on the fact than on a largely unmoderated site not everyone is nice all the time; again because you can.

The real options are to take it up in the thread, use the report function, or choose a different site.

ilovesooty Sun 11-Sep-16 16:14:53

Well if it wasn't a TAAT it's set to become one now. Did you post on that thread Pinky or report?

PinkyOfPie Sun 11-Sep-16 16:17:00

I have reported goady comments ilove but not posted

Wittowoo Sun 11-Sep-16 16:18:17

I've no idea what a TAAT is. It is a genuinely asked question, I'm new on here, haven't changed my name or whatever. Just really shocked by some responses to fairly innocuous orignal posts. My daughter is 8 and is learning about online behaviour; be as kind and truthful as you would be in real life. Seems so simple yet plenty of grown ups can't seem to manage it. Why do people seem to find it so difficult?

YouTheCat Sun 11-Sep-16 16:18:52

I've seen a few posters who don't even seem to have read and understood the OP and then pick on one tiny detail and bang on like a dog with a bone even when they are clearly wrong hard of thinking .

Bitofacow Sun 11-Sep-16 16:20:50

Is everybody being horrible on a thread about people being horrible?
Have you got examples?
This thread is soooooo boring and trite.

I suppose it would be really boring if everyone was reasonable.

meditrina Sun 11-Sep-16 16:29:53

"Why do people seem to find it so difficult?"

It's not that they find it difficult, it's that they don't want to do it. This site is largely unmoderated, so it's a natural place for that kind of poster. There are other sites, more actively moderated, which have a quite different tone. You might find yourself more at home on one of them.

Also, this site (which bills itself as 'the one with the swearing') does not appear to be used by children. So it's also the place where people really don't have to set a good example.

wasonthelist Sun 11-Sep-16 18:34:52

......learning about online behaviour; be as kind and truthful as you would be in real life. Seems so simple yet plenty of grown ups can't seem to manage it. Why do people seem to find it so difficult?

Whilst this is admirable, I can't help feeling that it's important to realise some people are "keyboard warriors" and won't adhere to it. I think that's also an important life lesson FWIW. My 8 year old has extremely limited and always fully supervised online access.

wasonthelist Sun 11-Sep-16 18:40:53

TAAT = Thread about a Thread - they are banned, largely because otherwise the people who have been bitchy and unreasonable in one thread and have been sanctioned for it, just start another thread bitching about how unfair it was that their comments got removed from the other one - and so on.

One of my pet hates about this place is how abbreviations and phrases are bandied about - it's very unfriendly to newcomers. But I don't like jargon and buzzwords.

MinonsMovie Sun 11-Sep-16 18:45:50

I do think YABU. It's a fairly anonymous forum where people can give their honest opinions. It's kind of refreshing to know what peoples general opinions are without worrying about them moderating them because of social rules.

Happyinthehazeofadrunkenhour Sun 11-Sep-16 18:50:06

They do it to provoke a response and probably because they are extremely bored and a bit sad!

Queenbean Sun 11-Sep-16 18:55:43

Well I think part of the reason is that there are soooo many threads on AIBU which are the tiniest most inconsequential things ever. Frankly, they just don't need to be posted.

Ie "AIBU to think this woman was vile?
I was out shopping 3 days ago and a woman walked past me, then turned around and gave me a dirty look. I've been furious about it since, AIBU to think she was really horrible?"

I mean, just no need for it to every be a thread about half the stuff on AIBU

Queenbean Sun 11-Sep-16 18:56:23

That last sentence doesn't make any sense but you get it!

Thattimeofyearagain Sun 11-Sep-16 19:01:40

Yes AIBU can be a snake pit. Its not a place for the faint hearted !

MinonsMovie Sun 11-Sep-16 19:05:17

Queenbeen if that is truely the reason surely just ignore it? Why do these people feel the need to berate others over what they deem worthy of starting a thread over?

Or politely say that it doesn't really warrant a thread because: xyz

Presumably if it is a popular thread with multiple comments then it is a valid thread as it sparked discussion?

acasualobserver Sun 11-Sep-16 19:06:40

I'm new on here

In which case you haven't got much invested in the site. Wouldn't it be easier to leave and find something more agreeable?

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