should I of phrased this differently?

(226 Posts)
lordsteatime Sat 10-Sep-16 12:18:53

Dear daughter 18 is going a club tonight with friends and she showed me her outfit.
i said 'its great, but use some tit tape or you might accidentally breastfeed someone'

there was a brief pause and then my neighbours may of heard a rather loud angry scream.

After a thump up the stairs and loud grumbling daughter returned with out fit adjusted.
She still hates me.

TobleroneBoo Sat 10-Sep-16 12:20:54

I think yes, you should have

billabye Sat 10-Sep-16 12:21:01

It's certainly an odd turn of phrase confused

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut Sat 10-Sep-16 12:21:46

No, not phrased it differently. You should not have been such a crude asshat at all.

SandyY2K Sat 10-Sep-16 12:22:02

Yes. You should have.

Comes over as a bit crude and not what I'd expect from a parent TBH.

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut Sat 10-Sep-16 12:22:27

What you said was just nasty. And a bit thick.

StarlingMurmuration Sat 10-Sep-16 12:22:42

Well I'd think that was a pretty vulgar comment, but maybe that's what you were going for? If not, you should have phrased it differently.

BeingATwatItsABingThing Sat 10-Sep-16 12:23:25

Umm... What? You said that? I'd be pretty pissed off too!

ReallyShouldKnowBetterAtMyAge Sat 10-Sep-16 12:24:03

What an odd thing to say.

Recommending some tap is one thing but the breast feeding comment is just weird.

Pinkheart5915 Sat 10-Sep-16 12:24:11

Yes it Was rather rude, surely you could of worded it better confused

ageingrunner Sat 10-Sep-16 12:24:36

I wouldn't talk to anyone in such a crude way, especially not my daughter. Did you REALLY say that?

whywonthedgehogssharethehedge Sat 10-Sep-16 12:25:00

Yes very crude and abrupt. There are about a thousand gentle ways to tell her she needs to be careful of filling out without being crude or rude.

M00nUnit Sat 10-Sep-16 12:25:34

Yes you should have and you should also have phrased the title of this post differently.

Jumpandleak Sat 10-Sep-16 12:26:06

It depends on how you normally talk to each other. We're all rude so that would be quite normal in this house.

Fatmanbuttsam Sat 10-Sep-16 12:26:31

Rude, crude, vulgar. What a horrible way to speak to anybody let alone an 18 year old. YABVU and should indeed have phrased it better.

Iwasjustabouttosaythat Sat 10-Sep-16 12:26:59

Should I have. HAVE. HAVE**

NOT "of".

YABVU.

ImperialBlether Sat 10-Sep-16 12:27:57

Did you really talk to your daughter like that?

EvansAndThePrince Sat 10-Sep-16 12:28:15

This ^^

Also, no you shouldn't have said that.

MuseumOfCurry Sat 10-Sep-16 12:28:55

Rather crude, and not the way a mother should speak to her daughter.

BertrandRussell Sat 10-Sep-16 12:29:49

Vulgar and unpleasant.

lordsteatime Sat 10-Sep-16 12:30:20

we quite frank and blunt at times, but honest. and yes the outfit did need adjustment.

a gentle way of explaining ? let me see

oh, darling are you sure your breasts wont fall out when you start dancing?

or, is might be a cold night out dear, you might get a chill?

is that what you mean? after all this is a woman , a young adult woman.

MuseumOfCurry Sat 10-Sep-16 12:31:32

'Darling, please go change.'

lordsteatime Sat 10-Sep-16 12:31:59

and yes 'iwasjustabouttosaythat' thank you, I should of said ' have' <smacks own wrist >

BertrandRussell Sat 10-Sep-16 12:32:05

"It's a bit low- you need some tit tape"

TondelayaDellaVentamiglia Sat 10-Sep-16 12:32:11

I think all was required was either

"you'll catch your death of cold in that....!"
or
"don't expect me to explain to your grandparents why the daily mail are going to have your photo headlining their latest Laddette item!"

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