Advanced search ask how much you spend on birthday gifts for your DC's friends?

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wheresmyfairygodmother Fri 09-Sep-16 22:17:25

Talking about their general classmates.

I used to spend roughly the equivalent of what they'd spent on inviting my child to the party, eg. for a soft play party I'd spend around £10.

Then my DC had a soft party and I couldn't believe the cheap tat some parents gifted! Have been unsure of etiquette ever since. I am constantly working to a budget so don't want to overspend, but I'm also curious what's the norm grin

wheresmyfairygodmother Fri 09-Sep-16 22:18:52

my DC had a soft PLAY party

scottishegg Fri 09-Sep-16 22:19:21

Between £7 to £10. Sometimes £5 if I get a bargain!

Kr1stina Fri 09-Sep-16 22:19:47


wheresmyfairygodmother Fri 09-Sep-16 22:19:53

Oops sorry didn't mean to bold type that #novice

mrsmalcolmreynolds Fri 09-Sep-16 22:20:44

Yep, capped at about £10 and not less than £5.

Planty18 Fri 09-Sep-16 22:21:27

Like scottishegg

Mycraneisfixed Fri 09-Sep-16 22:21:49


multivac Fri 09-Sep-16 22:22:16

You "couldn't believe the cheap tat some parents gifted"?


ShoppingBasket Fri 09-Sep-16 22:23:22

I would spend about £10 and I am always on the look out for bargains! Presents he has received vary between pounds hop stuff and £10-£15 mark. However, my DC would be delighted with a packet of chewing gum. Spend what you can afford not to keep up with others.

chanie44 Fri 09-Sep-16 22:24:17

I aim to spend about £10, but stock up on offers, so many presents cost £5.

We live in greater London and there is poverty in the area, so I know that people don't have much money.

MaddyHatter Fri 09-Sep-16 22:24:22


multivac Fri 09-Sep-16 22:24:39

My kids, by the way, love cheap tat on the whole.

You're right, of course, though - that it's not about what the birthday child might enjoy. It's about how much the birthday child's parents have invested, and what they get back in return. Is there any way you could cleverly cut costs next year (some kind of mega-advance booking, perhaps)? You might even end up in profit!

Sprinklestar Fri 09-Sep-16 22:26:02

£10 or so. But I always stock up when there's a sale on and have a few toys ready to go (cards too). I have two DC who seem to have a party to go to most weekends at the mo so it saves a few quid to bulk buy!

SpeckledyBanana Fri 09-Sep-16 22:28:04

£5-10. If time is short I stick £10 in a card TBH.

icelollycraving Fri 09-Sep-16 22:28:43

After ds had a party I had a rethink on gifts. I now spend £10. I used to spend more but I was overdoing it. He had mainly gifts that I imagine cost around £7-10. His best friend gave him a present from the poundshop. He didn't notice but I did. Spend what you can afford,kids don't pay much attention I don't think.

LittleWingSoul Fri 09-Sep-16 22:28:46

Oh wow... I thought it wasn't really about the presents?!

Tink06 Fri 09-Sep-16 22:29:40

Between £5 and £8 depending what I can get. Home Bargains sometimes has brilliant pressies for a fiver.

AddToBasket Fri 09-Sep-16 22:31:12

About £7-8.

I don't think I'm being mean. I'd pay more but I wouldn't want any parents thinking they had to spend more on my DC. I generally get Duplo/Lego/Lego friends, the smallish sets.

wheresmyfairygodmother Fri 09-Sep-16 22:31:56

Thanks for all the helpful comments.

multivac no point dressing it up hmm They weren't just cheap, but poor quality too and these are families I know are 'affluent' so it was a choice to buy cheap rather than if it were someone juggling finances, which I would not view the same way obvs. I juggle finances but still don't buy cheap! There are deals out there if that's someone's concern.

But it did make me wonder ever since what's everyone else doing. I don't want to overspend as that's less money for my own DC but I don't want to underspend either...

GoldFishFingerz Fri 09-Sep-16 22:32:35

Well about £6 if it's a big class party and not close friends. £11 for the few close friends - what ever the party consists of. It's irrelevant wether it's soft play or a tea party at home.

BrightOranges Fri 09-Sep-16 22:32:38

£5-£10 or sometimes re-gift DC's presents. It can get bloody costly otherwise.

Ilovewillow Fri 09-Sep-16 22:38:18

About £10, unless they are a good friend who we are out of school a lot in which case £15!

icelollycraving Fri 09-Sep-16 22:40:56

If I show ds the present & he sulks about not keeping it, I know it's a success.

multivac Fri 09-Sep-16 22:43:34

Do your kids assess "quality" OP? Were they terribly disappointed by the post-soft-play haul?

I suppose if your children's friends' parents look at the present pile following a party in the same way you do, you might be right to be concerned. I suppose one solution might be to have a 'list', like people do for weddings, with every gift item costing exactly the same as a party place.

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