So, 95% of the time I get on great with DS, because I mainly just let her ‘special ways’ go over my head and don’t worry about it too much. We have the odd falling out as siblings do but as I’m 5 years her senior I just tend to let it go, she is after all my DS and life is too short for fighting. She is very ‘woe is me’ and always thinks that bad stuff ‘happens’ to her specifically. I avoid her Facebook page due to the vague booking and attention seeking that she fills it with so as not to get wound up.
DH and I sold our house about 5 months ago to buy a new bigger place. I followed ALL the guidance of the estate agent, freshened up where it was needed, moved extra ‘stuff’ into storage (hence needing a bigger place), kept it sparkling tidy and clean and ‘dressed’ it was hard work keeping it like that with 2 DD’s but we did it and we sold within 2 weeks. Also it was very competitively priced for the area and there was nothing like it on the market at all, so we were very lucky indeed.
About 3 months ago DS put her house up for sale. She has had very few viewings and those she has had haven’t come to anything. I think it is overpriced for the size and area – but it does match it’s valuation. I’ve been round a few times recently (usually to drive her somewhere or take something round or fix something for her) and honestly it’s dirty and ‘unfinished’. Her front door is filthy and a few weeks ago, I casually mentioned it, saying how much dirt is out there, must be because the cars park is so close or something, it was my way of telling her without her thinking I was being mean/overstepping the mark. Her idea of cleaning is to put bleach in a bucket of water and splash it round the place (I know I have seen it). She is now complaining that the agents are not doing their job – and she wants the top level service for no extra money from them etc. and wants me to write the letter for her. She is asking how come I sold so easy etc. etc. (easy FFS!!! if only she know that I slept 4 hours a night, went to work took care of 2 DD’s, and cleaned the rest of the time) but she’s being quite arsey with me over it because I don't want to write a snippy letter for her.
Do I just put it on the table and say – I think there is so much for sale in her area and her place has to stand out for a good reason and the place is not presented well enough and risk the balance of our relationship (the one built by me just biting my lip when she is seriously selfish (like texting me at 4pm on the afternoon of DD2’s birthday to ask what she wants and then not actually seeing DD2 or giving her a card or gift even though her birthday was more than two weeks ago now!!!) (or like telling me by text she couldn’t be arsed putting make up on and getting public transport to come see me when I was upset due to a bereavement and DH was working away)). Or do I just not say anything and let the agent deal with it.
AIBU?
how to broach the subject with DS
tryingnottobeabadsis · 08/09/2016 18:18
When she asked 'how come you sold yours so easily' - why didn't you answer her? She's not going to know you had 4 hours sleep, cleaned & uncluttered constantly etc... unless you tell her
I'm not getting the angst over what is a simple question. 
Unless there is a huge backstory. clearly there is because nobody gets their knickers in a twist this much over property selling tips
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