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Badbadtromance Thu 08-Sep-16 15:20:23

Dd 14 is in a theatre group. The first performance is Sunday pm but we are on holiday. Cue epic teenage tantrum. I'm on my own with 3 kids and she is eldest. I worried its not fair on other two who are 5/6. Its not a bit performance more a trial run. I would also need to do a four hour drive from quite early allowing for stops. I really need this break. Just don't know what to do.

GeneralBobbit Thu 08-Sep-16 15:21:54

How long is the holiday? How much are you cutting it short by.

Whatever you decide, remember it's a huge deal to a 14 year old.

humblesims Thu 08-Sep-16 15:22:50

Have you only just found out? Did you say you would take her but now dont want to?

Meadows76 Thu 08-Sep-16 15:23:41

More details re the holiday?

Nanny0gg Thu 08-Sep-16 15:23:46

If you're away, how has she rehearsed? How has she been given a part?

Badbadtromance Thu 08-Sep-16 15:38:36

Holiday is 3 days but her group give v short notice of things. Often 24 hours

Mybeardeddragonjustdied2016 Thu 08-Sep-16 15:41:57

Send her back by coach with someone to meet her at the other end?

icouldabeenacontender Thu 08-Sep-16 15:42:43

If it's a trial run, I would continue the holiday, especially as you need the break and I wouldn't be inclined to give in to the tantrum.
Presumably you'll be around for the real performance?

Wolfiefan Thu 08-Sep-16 15:44:29

Tell the group she can't be there. Does she have a major part? Can they delay the rehearsal until she returns?

LemonBreeland Thu 08-Sep-16 15:51:45

For a 3 day holiday I wouldn't leave early. I would also complain to the group about late notice.

trafalgargal Thu 08-Sep-16 15:53:53

Trial run or dress rehearsal?

Does she have any good friends she could stay with so she can skip the holiday or come back early by coach alone ? If it's auditions she might never forgive you or at the very least ruin the holiday so no you shouldn't cancel the holiday but at 14 she's old enough for a 2 night sleepover with a friend.

ProudAS Thu 08-Sep-16 15:56:41

I'm in an am-dram group and no way could we get away with such short notice.

Don't underestimate how much it could mean to your DD though after putting in a lot of work. Could she stay with a friend or travel back on the Saturday?

GeneralBobbit Thu 08-Sep-16 15:57:17

I wouldn't lose the last day of a 3 day holiday

VioletBam Thu 08-Sep-16 15:57:26

It's tough luck. If they're giving such short notice it's only to be expected that kids won't always make it. Call the organiser and tell them DD is upset...but you're on holiday and will miss it. Ask for more notice in future.

redskytonight Thu 08-Sep-16 16:12:38

Can you send her home by public transport and arrange for her to stay with a friend?

juneau Thu 08-Sep-16 16:18:06

Yes, agree with the bus/train if she's so desperate to attend. You shouldn't cut short your 3-day holiday for this.

EweAreHere Thu 08-Sep-16 16:19:57

If it were me, the drama 'performance' would be missed.

And I'd be quite clear that I wouldn't be allowing any drama over it on my three day much needed break, either.

user1471552005 Thu 08-Sep-16 16:21:50

I'm confused.

How can the drama club put on a performance with "often 24" hours notice?

My DD performs, and things are arranged many months in advance. THeatre has to be booked tickets sold many many hours of rehearsal etc, yes it's a big deal, what is exactly a "trial run"? An audition? Dress rehearsal?

Badbadtromance Thu 08-Sep-16 16:32:23

OK I decided to come back early, but she now wants to attend practice on Saturday too. I can't win. I haven't had a break since last September. Not sure what I'll do now. Thanks so much for all replies

Lonecatwithkitten Thu 08-Sep-16 16:35:04

Hmm I am the producer for a children's a dram group our show is next March we have published our entire rehearsal schedule between now and then so parents can organise themselves.

ApocalypseSlough Thu 08-Sep-16 16:37:02

Don't come home early, definitely not Saturday. Enjoy your break.

OliviaBenson Thu 08-Sep-16 16:38:03

Errrr, tell her no! Why does everything revolve around her?

HunterHearstHelmsley Thu 08-Sep-16 16:38:28

Can she stay with a friend and you go with the younger ones?

Topseyt Thu 08-Sep-16 16:40:02

My youngest is 14. The older two are 21 and 17.

I have always told mine unequivocally that holidays are expensive and precious, therefore if we are away on holiday when any of their clubs (hockey, netball, drama, athletics etc.) has something on then the holiday will take precedence and will not be altered.

They have never argued that one, although as teenagers they have argued just about everything else possible, as they do.

TantrumsAndBalloons Thu 08-Sep-16 16:41:02

Well, you just say no.

You explain you booked and presumably paid for a holiday and it's a shame this group only gives 24 hours notice but she can't expect everyone to miss out on a break because of a last minute drama thing

Or you give her the option of staying with grandparents/relatives/friends whilst you and the rest of the family go on holiday

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