I work full time in a senior clinical role within the NHS. My working hours are generally Monday to Friday 9-5 with one weekend in 6 on call within the hospital.
I also work early / late shifts as required.
DH currently works 12 hour shifts days and nights 4 on 4 off.
I can only work early shifts on his days off due to getting DC to school etc.
This works well however DH is unhappy with working shifts and is actively job hunting.
I am fully supportive of him and don't want him to be unhappy however when we have discussed this previously we agreed he would look for 9-5 roles or a position with shorter shifts without night duty. These jobs are available in his line of work.
We also agreed to discuss jobs before he applied.
This morning he came home from work and told me that he has applied for a job Monday to Friday 8-4 without any discussion.
These hours would mean that I would be unable to work any early shifts (I start at 06:30) during the week which would make me very inflexible, unsupportive of my teams and potentially unable to effectively do my job.
I am really angry that he chose to apply before discussing this with me and we argued this morning.
I think that any new job he applies for needs to be compatible with mine. He says I'm being selfish and should want him to be happy.
AIBU?
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TheLaundryLady · 08/09/2016 07:48
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