Talk

Advanced search

Aibu? Or can I request not to see a certain dr?

(19 Posts)
salemtheteenagecat Wed 07-Sep-16 18:05:09

Just wondering if it's possible to not see a certain dr as every time I have seen this particular dr I've come away feeling like I wasted time and been stupid then ended up crying as a result this has now happened again! I feel like he has no empathy for pregnancy. I am 32 weeks pregnant went to Drs this morning seen a dr explained I had already sent a urnie sample off Monday but last night i was in a lot of pain when going to the toilet and afterwards this has since got worse hence why I went to the Drs! Rang midwife who said I need to see a medical professional which I did. He give me antibiotics and told me to take them but any problems come back hopefully it will clear it up. I have since taken one and for the rest of the day my skin has itched read it as a side affect and rang Drs to see if I could change them as what the dr said this morning.

Been and seen the Dr and it's the dr that I have previously found unhelpful and guess what I am now sat at home in tears. He basically told me well if they make you itch stop taking them as that's obvious and anyway your test came back negative so there is no need to take them. I said the sample was given in after the pain got worse and he looked at me sighed and said well I suppose you might as well do another one haven't you!

I feel at a loss because it's still painful regardless if there is an infection there or not. So what am I suppose to do just deal with it? He has made me feel like I've just wasted time and no point in going back.

Can I ask the surgery not to be given appointments which him? When he is not there is a lovely dr who has helped me with pyhsio morning sickness etc after he said I should just deal with it and it's just part of being pregnant.

Sorry ended up being a bit of a rant!!

phillipp Wed 07-Sep-16 18:08:23

I have an appointment in the morning with the doctor I wanted. There was no issue with that.

However I have had to wait three weeks as it was her next available routine appointment.

Not sure how feasible it is if you want one ASAP.

SquidgyRedBall Wed 07-Sep-16 18:09:45

I'm sure YWNBU to ask, not everyone is going to like every doctor. Is there a doctor you would prefer to see? Personally I would prefer to say 'can I see Dr so-and-so' rather than 'I'll see anyone apart from Dr X'

ilovesooty Wed 07-Sep-16 18:10:45

I imagine if you attend as an emergency your practice will say you have to see whoever is available.
I did once have a commitment from my practice that I would not be allocated to a particular doctor even at emergency surgery (there are always two doctors on duty) for at least a year but that was because I'd made a formal complaint which was upheld.
If you book a routine appointment do you get to choose the GP?

Bearfrills Wed 07-Sep-16 18:12:02

You can. There's a GP at my practice who I don't like so when I make a routine appointment I always say "with any of the doctors except for Dr xxxxx" and I accept I may need to wait a few more days for an appointment if none of the others have appointments available until then.

If it's an urgent appointment, e.g., same day, then I accept that I have to suck it up and see her if she's the doctor doing the urgent clinic that day.

salemtheteenagecat Wed 07-Sep-16 18:12:09

Ok I know that the dr who covers his days off I can get appointment with asap. Do I mention this when I next go in and request I don't get an appointment with them?

Or if I need an appointment on the day ask who it's with?

I don't want to be seen as picky but really don't want to see him again

salemtheteenagecat Wed 07-Sep-16 18:14:24

Routine appointments always make sure it's the nice dr who covers his days off there are another 5 Drs that are at the surgery and always get with her.

It's more just the emergency appointment situation but after today I would honestly put off going if it meant I had to see him.

makingacupoftea Wed 07-Sep-16 18:17:00

I always avoid a certain doctor who seems to have a hatred for other human beings. I just don't understand why you would become a gp is you have such terrible social skills but for some reason he did.

I actually wouldn't even go in a emergency if I couldn't see a different go . I would go to our walk in clinic if it was really that urgent that my only option was to see him. I don't trust him at all.

WellErrr Wed 07-Sep-16 18:27:13

Everytime I ring they ask 'Which Dr?' and I say quite sweetly 'Anyone but Dr McFuckfacetwat (not his real name) please' and they don't comment, just hook me in with someone else.

He doesn't worry about your feelings, why spare his?

SaucyJack Wed 07-Sep-16 18:29:40

You can request to see a different doctor, yes.

Just as an aside- it may be your cervix that hurts and not your UT? It's quite normal to get stabbing pains in later pregnancy from the baby pressing down. Ignore if this isn't helpful.

salemtheteenagecat Wed 07-Sep-16 18:52:15

Wellerr...might use the Drtwatface option next time and your right about the spare of feelings! Damn me and them feelings...

Saucy I didn't know this and that might be another cause thank you

alfagirl73 Wed 07-Sep-16 18:53:27

Absolutely; it's important that you have trust and confidence in your doctor. I've had it put on my file before that I was never to be seen by a particular doctor who had been very rude and patronising to me. I suspect there were a few complaints about him - he left not long after.

Hemmingbird Thu 08-Sep-16 15:10:52

Absolutely get the surgery to put a note on your file. There's a Dr at my surgery who does the same, made me feel like I was a hypochondriac and time waster. Well, the last straw was when I had an appointment and saw him with regard to my seizure disorder.

Just before I left his office (after an utterly pointless meeting) he quietly said "You know you can stop these seizures whenever you want."

Well Dr Cunto, it's been 5 years since I saw you, I'm still having seizures, can no longer drive and if I could control them I probably wouldn't choose to have one in the middle of Morrisons while holding my infant daughter.

I agree with a pp - I don't understand why people like that go into a caring profession. And he's a fucking partner.

harderandharder2breathe Thu 08-Sep-16 15:19:55

I'm very lucky in that generally even for emergency surgery I can request nice doctor

There's a doctor I avoid since he ignored my asthma worsening and meant I was put off getting it looked at again for months. Nice doctor immediately diagnosed and adjusted meds and fixed it. I would see him if I absolutely had to, but would rather wait til the following day and try again for nice doctor

Yorkieheaven Thu 08-Sep-16 15:24:03

Absolutely and I would inform the practise manager about his unfortunate bed side manner. It's not acceptable to act like an arse wipe.

salemtheteenagecat Thu 08-Sep-16 15:42:29

Thank you! I am sorry that people are also experienced rude Drs.

I understand it's a highly pressured job and yes it might get tiring seen people all day everyday but don't do it if you don't enjoy it as it does make people worse and reluctant to go back.

Next time I make an appointment I will mention that I don't want to see him again.

JensenAcklesUndercrackers Thu 08-Sep-16 16:25:42

You have every right to request a different GP, you need to feel comfortable around them. I always ask to see any Dr other than my 'Named GP'. She's rude and pushy and I would rather gouge my own heart out with a blunt spoon than ever step foot inside her surgery again.

Mybugslife Thu 08-Sep-16 16:29:53

You can refuse/ask to see who you like.
I had a Dr in my last 2 pregnancies that literally didn't give a shit about me. She was the one who said 'oh there's no heartbeat' and left me in a room for an hour and forgot about me! No sorry no nothing. She also treated me appallingly when my previous pregnancy resulted in my son being born at 21 weeks.

This pregnancy I said to everyone I saw that under no circumstances must this woman come anywhere near me! And they've been great about it.

Just tell them that u feel he doesn't listen and makes u upset and that u don't want to see him anymore X

TheProblemOfSusan Thu 08-Sep-16 16:45:18

I think it's fine - and also really important information for a practice manager to have. If everyone is saying 'not Dr Twunt please' they'll get to know about it.

Or at least I'd hope that's how it works, but perhaps they're too busy for that kind of oversight?

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now