when is a reasonable time to send Wedding Invites out?

(44 Posts)
RestlessTraveller Wed 07-Sep-16 16:19:59

Just that really. Need advice, how long before the event is a good time to send the invites out?

Tiggeryoubastard Wed 07-Sep-16 16:20:47

The usual is around 6 weeks before.

RestlessTraveller Wed 07-Sep-16 16:22:12

Really? That seems awfully short notice.

lastqueenofscotland Wed 07-Sep-16 16:23:45

6 weeks but I'd let family know as soon as its booked

HeCantBeSerious Wed 07-Sep-16 16:24:27

I thought 3 months was usual.

GingerAndTheBiscuits Wed 07-Sep-16 16:26:12

Let people know informally as soon as you have a date. Formal invites nearer to the time. You don't usually confirm final numbers with your venue til the week before

GinIsIn Wed 07-Sep-16 16:26:16

It depends how many of your guests are local really - we gave 6 months notice with ours but had lots of guests who would need to travel from overseas so we needed to give them time to make travel arrangements.

VladmirsPoutine Wed 07-Sep-16 16:27:04

8 weeks/2 months is reasonable. I once received an invite for 2 years - oddly enough I didn't save the date.

RestlessTraveller Wed 07-Sep-16 16:27:18

I think I'd be more comfortable with 3 months, especially as there is accommodation involved!

RestlessTraveller Wed 07-Sep-16 16:27:55

2 years! Wow!

Squiff85 Wed 07-Sep-16 16:28:24

3 months is the norm I think. I sent ours out with about 4months notice. 6 weeks sounds ridiculously short notice!!

GingerbreadGingerbread Wed 07-Sep-16 16:28:41

Three months is usual with my friends and family! I did three months.

shaggedthruahedgebackwards Wed 07-Sep-16 16:30:09

I would say between 2 and 3 months is normal

Obviously let your close friends & family know the date as soon as you've booked the venue but IMO it's a bit weird to sent the invites any earlier than 3 months before the date

raviolidreaming Wed 07-Sep-16 16:36:16

www.debretts.com/weddings/engagements-invitations/

6 - 12 weeks is the Debretts advice.

RestlessTraveller Wed 07-Sep-16 16:43:25

Thank you everyone!

BiddyPop Wed 07-Sep-16 16:52:12

We had informed everyone well in advance once we booked the dates.

But my DM didn't send out the invites at the start of December as promised, and was still writing them the week after Christmas. So they actually only got sent with 4 weeks notice in the end!

(My DSiblings have all learned from my folly of being the eldest and going first - they all wrote the invites themselves!! grin )

HeCantBeSerious Wed 07-Sep-16 16:56:51

We've had almost 2 years notice (oral) of BIL and SIL's wedding. Which is a PITA to be honest.

notinagreatplace Wed 07-Sep-16 17:07:54

I know people say 6 weeks but my friends would have had other commitments by then. In my circle 3-4 months is normal and people often do at least an email save the date earlier.

OutOfAces Wed 07-Sep-16 17:32:14

6 weeks is nowhere near enough time! I, and many of my friends, would probably already have plans.
Plus when we got married our venue wanted us to confirm numbers and food choices 1 month in advance - 6 weeks wouldn't have left enough time to give guests a chance to RSVP!

I would say 3-4 months is perfectly normal. It's not so far off that something is likely to crop up but close enough that they will know if they have holidays etc planned.

I also (controversially) wanted to have the maximum day guests we could fit into the ceremony room so sent all my day invites out and waited for them to RSVP before sending the evening invites.

ItsLikeRainOnYourWeddingDay Wed 07-Sep-16 17:37:59

If travel of more than an hour or stay overnight stay is required I would say three months minimum.

NapQueen Wed 07-Sep-16 17:41:09

Check your venue

We had to give final numbers at 4 weeks so we needed invited back before that. I put my rsvp as 6 weeks before and sent them 4 weeks before that.

So we sent ours 10 weeks before.

YelloDraw Wed 07-Sep-16 18:54:59

6 weeks isn't enough time if people need to book travel arrangements like train

3 months absolute minimum for real invites with a save the date as soon as you can!

Mummaaaaaah Wed 07-Sep-16 19:06:02

Save the date cards can be sent around 6 months in advance if you're doing them, wedding invites should be 3 months.

CwtchMeQuick Wed 07-Sep-16 19:11:59

3-6 months for invites I think. I've had save the dates 8-12 months in advance

rosesarered9 Wed 07-Sep-16 19:19:29

Do you have anyone having to travel from overseas? If you do, you might need to let them know (informally) at least 6-8 months early. Formal invites 6-12 weeks before the wedding.

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