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To think there's something wrong me as I haven't moved on 3+ years later?

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VladmirsPoutine Wed 07-Sep-16 15:30:52

I haven't seen my then ex since 2013. We had a tumultuous on/off relationship for 3 years and it seems I'm still playing it out in my mind everyday whilst he seems to have moved on with his life - as has the OW whom he is no longer with.

Why am I struggling so hard? I just think maybe certain things stay with you for life? I've been through talking and CBT therapy which didn't make any sort of difference and tried mindfulness but I didn't stick with it as I should.

But that said, surely I shouldn't be experiencing the pain of that relationship on a daily basis 3 years later. What can I do? Just accept that this is how it is going to be from now on?

timelytess Wed 07-Sep-16 15:32:56

Get busy. Keep up the mindfulness. Identify what you are gaining by holding on to your pain.
It will pass. One day you'll notice it doesn't feel the same any more.

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