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To think I am stuck in Brighton as a gay parent?

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user1473113019 Tue 06-Sep-16 19:31:40

We live in a lovely but very small 3 bed flat and with Brighton prices being so high will struggle to ever buy the spacious house / garden we would love. We have 1 baby but would love more and need more space. As a gay parent I am very nervous to consider living anywhere but Brighton (safe / normalised / accepted family set up here where our children will never feel they are unusual or different, which is so important to us). So, Aibu to feel 'trapped' here for these reasons or are their other cheaper areas we could consider where we wouldn't be the only gay family in the village?! Thanks in advance!

SprogletsMum Tue 06-Sep-16 19:33:27

I live in a fairly deprived area and know of at least 6 or 7 "gay families" I don't think you need to live in Brighton to be accepted.

CaptainCrunch Tue 06-Sep-16 19:33:58

Not sure if it's any cheaper than Brighton but Edinburgh is very gay family friendly OP.

My 15 year old DS has a huge group of friends, roughly 40% of them are gay and 2 are transgender. No one bats an eye.

ocelot41 Tue 06-Sep-16 19:36:22

Hebden Bridge is Mecca for gay families!

pollyblack Tue 06-Sep-16 19:36:23

I live in Edinburgh and know loads of same sex parents. It's not really a thing.

What about Hove, Lancing etc. Lewes is quite expensive but Chailey might be cheaper? I know a same sex couple and I'm sure they haven't had any issues

Hobbes8 Tue 06-Sep-16 19:36:58

Lots of gay Brighton parents have moved further out for more space (just like the straight ones I guess). I live in Saltdean and there's at least two same sex couples with children in my son's class. A villagey feel and you can keep the same jobs!

I live in a small village in Cheshire and no one blinks an eye at the same sex couples with kids or the poly family where the kids have different dads but they all live in the same house with the mum.
I would hope it's like this everywhere.

BarbaraofSeville Tue 06-Sep-16 19:42:04

Assuming you are female, Hebden Bridge is famous for being very popular with lesbians. It is also a very picturesque small town about halfway between Leeds and Manchester. Sadly it does have a bit of a flooding problem.

melhm Tue 06-Sep-16 19:42:46

I'm local to you, lived in Brighton for 25 years and moved to outer areas and kid Sussex. If you lived where I am you would get double the size of property, we have five primary schools and in just my daughters year you would be one of at least ten sets of same sex parents. We also have trans parents and did have a gay head st two of our local schools. Have courage X

EddieHitler Tue 06-Sep-16 19:43:35

I don't think it's like the bad old days. My mum lives in a pretty rough area with quite a few people in same-sex relationships and their families living there. Nobody bats an eyelid.

JaniceBattersby Tue 06-Sep-16 19:45:55

I live right in the middle of the countryside in the Midlands. I can't think of one person here who would give a fuck that you were gay.


PotteringAlong Tue 06-Sep-16 19:47:04

Yabu and a bit narrow minded (ironically like the people you are trying to avoid).

Handbagsandgladrages Tue 06-Sep-16 19:47:09

I don't live in Brighton and am gay and accepted.

HorridHenrietta2 Tue 06-Sep-16 19:47:26

I live in the North West town not particularly known for being "Gay friendly" but honestly have never had any problems, nor do I expect any because gay families are much more usual these days.

fastdaytears Tue 06-Sep-16 19:47:51

You'd be fine in Oxford!

x2boys Tue 06-Sep-16 19:49:37

Manchester has canal street and a Mardi Gras every year .

onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad Tue 06-Sep-16 19:50:59

My wife and I are gay parents living in a a mostly heteronormative village in Herts. Not only are we accepted we are loved by our many close friends here and are very much part of the social life of the village. No one really sees us as gay anymore we're just another couple. However I understand your concerns as we've always said we couldn't live anywhere else except possibly Brighton (or Lesbos or HebdenBridge)

shakeatailfeather Tue 06-Sep-16 19:51:43

I can think of 2 same sex couples with dc in Ks1 at our small local school (far from brighton!). Don't think anyone even gives it a 2nd thought

SaucyJack Tue 06-Sep-16 19:51:48

I'd imagine there's plenty of places you could live that are gay family friendly.

Kemp town is undoubtedly second-to-none for the gay man about town, but if you have a child that's probably not your scene anyway.

Not least because you may well be a woman.

Northernlurker Tue 06-Sep-16 19:53:17

I was going to suggest Hebden bridge too. Th North is much better value, even the very popular bits.

froggers1 Tue 06-Sep-16 19:54:19

I come from Brighton but moved to Henfield. I know some gay couples and one gay mum on her own with daughter. All is fine! You get much more for your money here and only 20 mins from Brighton. Definitely move!

Ninasimoneinthemorning Tue 06-Sep-16 19:55:03

I live in the north west and it's pretty diverse here!! I have two three gay families as friends/family . The kids in the area honestly don't bat an eyelid and i don't think they have encountered and nastiness.

There is a thread, I think about gay families in our area on MN local. Sell up and move down here! smile

Coldilox Tue 06-Sep-16 19:55:15

Gay parent here in a pleasant suburb on Manchester. Perfectly happy here, plenty of other places I'd be happy to live too away from gay friendly Manchester. Things have changed outside the gaytopias.

Coldilox Tue 06-Sep-16 19:55:38

*of Manchester

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