He earns very little and I earn £45k before tax. He left following infidelity, not that it's relevant. He has seen the dc very little over the summer, especially ds2 who's not a cricket fan, to the detriment of his relationship with his dad.
I dropped them off today, reminding him that tomorrow is an inset day - Monday is his day during term time anyway. He did a huge sigh and told me it was 'ridiculous' that he has them every inset. He temps in schools, so obviously would not get any work on the first day back, while, as a teacher, I would not feel able to ask for the first day back after a 6 week holiday off . Anyway, I said nothing other than reminded him that we had agreed this during mediation. He then said that had been 'bollocks' and that he has checked and I should be paying him £60 a week cm, based on my income. I didn't want to argue in front of the dc, so didn't really reply, but I have come home and checked on the calculator and it seems he is right.
We agreed at mediation he wouldn't ask for spousal maintenance (had been a sahd) and nothing was said about cm. In term time he has them 4 nights per fortnight, though has had them far less then that over the summer - which I have been happy about, but it wasn't what he insisted he wanted .
The only thing he pays for is the meals they have when with him. I cover EVERYTHING else, and am happy to do so, but am fucked if I am going to be handing over £200 per month for a few plates of pasta. That could be going to their so-far-non-existent university funds. AIBU? I'm sick of the whole thing.
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To think I absolutely do not owe him child maintenance?
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notagainnellie · 04/09/2016 20:48
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