Page 3 | AIBU to be upset that he changed the baby's name?

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user1473008638 Sun 04-Sep-16 18:20:01

We had chosen a name. She had a name! Now that she's here, he is refusing to call her the name we had picked, Sophia and is saying she looks like an Audrey or an Arden. He appears to be leaning towards Arden. He's refusing to call her Sophia and I'm at the end of my tether. She's two week old and she doesn't have a name. I wanted Sophia Alice or Sophia Skye. He keeps babbling on about how popular it is and how it doesn't feel like her name and that he knows too many little Sophias and Sophies. It's completely thrown me off track as we had planned to get her letters painted for her name and my parents are asking the name and everytime I say Sophia, he says we haven't really chosen and it's just getting to me! He wants Audrey Delilah or Arden Katherine. AIBU to say that we chose Sophia so she's Sophia now?

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2kids2dogsnosense Sun 04-Sep-16 18:43:41

Can't you have Audrey Sophia (visions of Audrey Hepburn filling my mind here - and how musical it sounds . . . )

Sophia Audrey also works.

And you can call her Janet at home so neither of you gets to use your favourite.

whywonthedgehogssharethehedge Sun 04-Sep-16 18:44:35

I love adrianna.

Irelephant Sun 04-Sep-16 18:46:30

I love Gideon. I'm not keen on Audrey and I love Sophia. You should both have a say I suppose but you (I presume) gave birth that should give you the deciding vote,

FeliciaJollygoodfellow Sun 04-Sep-16 18:47:24

"Until you see your baby you won't know if it suits her"

Rubbish. In some instances maybe.

Sophia is a lovely name and who gives a shit about what any other child is called, unless you're expecting all of them to live with you?! I really don't get the preciousness about popular names.

He doesn't get to unilaterally change your daughter's name. I would say if he doesn't want Sophia, and you don't want Audrey or Arden (and who could blame you) then you need to go back to the drawing board.

But I'm firmly in your corner, he's being ridiculous.

ConvincingLiar Sun 04-Sep-16 18:47:44

I know a little Arden. Hope she doesn't have "hard on" down the line.

You need to compromise. I like Audrey and would avoid Sophia because it is so popular.

Didactylos Sun 04-Sep-16 18:47:59

Just had a genius thought about the name!
how about
Heather Delilah

wanders off singing....
not helpful, I know

user1473008638 Sun 04-Sep-16 18:48:14

Mine is Mabel Grace
Clara Louise
Juliet Carson
Teagan Sophia
Margot Katherine
Saskia Grace
Saskia Gabriella
Zelda Therese
Arianna Katherine
Arianna Teagan
Arianna Shay/Shae
These are just a few names that I like from previous pregnancies and some I have made up now. I have a spreadsheet of baby names that I have thought of throughout this and my other pregnancy so have gone back to that and picked out ones I really like.

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user1473008638 Sun 04-Sep-16 18:49:21

Annabelle is indeed her middle name Sobriquet.

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FrancisCrawford Sun 04-Sep-16 18:49:50

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user1473008638 Sun 04-Sep-16 18:50:13

He likes Arianna. Hasn't said much else other than it's nice and pretty. Reminds him of Ariana Grande a bit so he prefers Arianna spelling.

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SantasLittleMonkeyButler Sun 04-Sep-16 18:50:20

Saskia or Arianna.

Soubriquet Sun 04-Sep-16 18:50:38

Is her first name Rosalie? It's the only twilight name I can think to go with Annabell

chocoLit Sun 04-Sep-16 18:50:49

Can you start with just a first name then go from there?

What about Arwyn as a consideration? That was nearly DD1's name and we have similar named DC as yours.

Nanny0gg Sun 04-Sep-16 18:50:52

Where does this Shay/Shea come from?

user1473008638 Sun 04-Sep-16 18:51:01

He says it in his northen accent as Arry-ahna.

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GabsAlot Sun 04-Sep-16 18:51:06

isnt really jup to us is it

what does your dh think of those

MimiSunshine Sun 04-Sep-16 18:51:08

I think you need to tell him you are very disappointed that he no longer wants Sophia as you thought it was set and she is Sophia to you but if he really doesn't like it anymore then you both need to agree on something else as you really don't like his new choices.

Ask him to think of three new suggestions tonight / tomorrow and you'll do the same and discuss them tomorrow but they can't be Audrey or Arden.

As a suggestion how about Alice Skye, Alice Delilah or Skye Katherine? My parents couldn't agree on my first name so went with their two preferred middle names

isitseptemberyet Sun 04-Sep-16 18:51:38

was he at the birth ? Might want to 'play on' the fact that you carried and birthed the child. It would piss me off no end ! My OH tried to do this with our first daughter, after his stupid mother came over and started saying she hated the name. We actually had a full on row at the registry office (the shame)!
Sophia is lovely and it's popular because its a great name
good luck x

user1473008638 Sun 04-Sep-16 18:51:38

Sobriquet you get all the flowers! She is indeed Rosalie Annabelle.

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callmeadoctor Sun 04-Sep-16 18:51:55

I would choose gabrielle, on its own. (Why do you need 2?)

LostTiredSad Sun 04-Sep-16 18:52:18

Arden? As in Elizabeth Arden? confused I can see jokes being made of Arden in school ('ard un)

TwentyCups Sun 04-Sep-16 18:52:18

Yikes op are those the only two choices? Grill him or leave him? shockgrin

I think start from scratch is best now. He has vetoed Sophia - you can veto Arden, fairs fair!

chocoLit Sun 04-Sep-16 18:52:27

Just so you know Arianna is another Harry Potter name. She was Dumbledores sister grin

And very nearly our DD3's name smile

Soubriquet Sun 04-Sep-16 18:53:14

That's a beautiful name OP

Definitely don't like Arden though I do like Audrey

Rosalie and Audrey sound lovely

nonline Sun 04-Sep-16 18:53:36

Juliet is recognisable but not too common and and Arianna is nice. Margot was a vetoed choice of mine.
I'm totally not precious about middle names - maybe push for your new choice of first and let him pick middle? 😉

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