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AIBU to be upset that he changed the baby's name?

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user1473008638 Sun 04-Sep-16 18:20:01

We had chosen a name. She had a name! Now that she's here, he is refusing to call her the name we had picked, Sophia and is saying she looks like an Audrey or an Arden. He appears to be leaning towards Arden. He's refusing to call her Sophia and I'm at the end of my tether. She's two week old and she doesn't have a name. I wanted Sophia Alice or Sophia Skye. He keeps babbling on about how popular it is and how it doesn't feel like her name and that he knows too many little Sophias and Sophies. It's completely thrown me off track as we had planned to get her letters painted for her name and my parents are asking the name and everytime I say Sophia, he says we haven't really chosen and it's just getting to me! He wants Audrey Delilah or Arden Katherine. AIBU to say that we chose Sophia so she's Sophia now?

BuntyFigglesworthSpiffington Sun 04-Sep-16 18:21:47

I think you both need to agree. What harm if she's nameless for another week or two while you fine a name that you both like.

Congrats! flowers

MumOnTheRunCatchingUp Sun 04-Sep-16 18:22:10


Until you see your baby you won't know if it suits her

And he's right!! 'Sophia ' is everywhere!

MephistoMarley Sun 04-Sep-16 18:23:10

Yabu! You need to agree. Lots of people don't name babies until they are born anyway. If people are asking for her name tell them you will let them know when you've decided!

Phillipa12 Sun 04-Sep-16 18:23:10

He cant make you choose Audrey or Arden just as much as you cant make him choose Sophia. Best get the name book out again!

user1473008638 Sun 04-Sep-16 18:23:48

Older daughter has a Twilight first name and a creepy doll middle name. Her twin brother has the same first name as Molly Weasley's brother and his middle name is a Beatles name! flowers if you get it!

user1473008638 Sun 04-Sep-16 18:24:30

Do we really have to choose a new first name?

eurochick Sun 04-Sep-16 18:24:30

She's two weeks old Mum!

pinkdelight Sun 04-Sep-16 18:24:54

How can she look like an Arden?? Is that even a real first name? There was a boy whose surname was that at my school and everyone called him hard on! Please lord don't let him overrule you.

user1473008638 Sun 04-Sep-16 18:25:24

Oh god pink that sounds awful! I can't have a daughter called Arden fgs.

sentia Sun 04-Sep-16 18:25:29

We have a right-of-veto system. Either can suggest a name, either can veto. A veto is final, whining about it isn't permitted.

If he won't go for Sophia and you won't agree to Audrey or Arden, you have about four weeks to come up with something else!

QOD Sun 04-Sep-16 18:25:36

You're oldest is Renesmè Chuckie?

QOD Sun 04-Sep-16 18:25:42


MumOnTheRunCatchingUp Sun 04-Sep-16 18:25:59

Yes euro, and your point?

Cherryskypie Sun 04-Sep-16 18:26:14

Go register her. Sophia is lovely.

user1473008638 Sun 04-Sep-16 18:26:29

A veto system sounds good but he's so stubborn about her name! No QOD, good guess though!

FuzzyOwl Sun 04-Sep-16 18:26:39

You have 42 days to register the name and even then you can ask for an extension. I think you should reach a compromise about a name and if you don't like his suggestions, then find a name you do both like.

Are you married? If not, ultimately it is the mother's choice what the baby is called although I don't think it will bode well for your future relationship if you can't agree this.

Sophia is a very popular name but I disagree that it is everywhere. After a year of going to at least five different baby groups every week, I have only met one. These days we have such a wider variance of names that even the most popular ones aren't used as much as the most popular names used to be.

longestlurkerever Sun 04-Sep-16 18:27:09

I think yanbu! He can't randomly decide her name is Audrey of all things. I love Sophia, even if it is popular. Even the most popular names are not "everywhere". There is no Amelia, Olivia or Sophia in dd's class, for example

user1473008638 Sun 04-Sep-16 18:27:09

Thanks Cherry, nice to know someone likes Sophia

Propertyquandry Sun 04-Sep-16 18:27:16

Please tell me your older son isn't called Ron John? shock

IzzyIsBusy Sun 04-Sep-16 18:27:21

Renesmè Chuckie?


00100001 Sun 04-Sep-16 18:27:33

Your older daughter is called Bella Chucky?

Your son is called Fabian Ringo?

user1473008638 Sun 04-Sep-16 18:28:07

Thanks fuzzy and longest. We are married.

Propertyquandry Sun 04-Sep-16 18:28:23

The actual names don't matter. If you don't agree on either Sophia or Audrey then you need to think of something else you can both agree on.

00100001 Sun 04-Sep-16 18:28:57

quandary Molly's brothers are called Fabian and Gideon. smile

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