Aibu to think it's not worth having a 'nose job' at 57?

[surferjet]

A friend of mine is considering having her nose done ( she's come into a little windfall )
which is fine, but I can't help thinking is it worth it at 57?

Aibu?

[Ninjapie]

Yes

[RunnyRattata]

Yes. You really are.

[FurryDogMother]

Yep, I'm 57 and I don't like to think that anything I'd choose to change about myself would be 'worth it' at this age - we've got (hopefully!) a long way to go yet, you know? I happen to like my nose, but if I didn't, and could afford it, I'd not hesitate to have it 'fixed' at my age!

[7to25]

My mother always said that a big nose held your face together as you get older.......I think I agree with her.

[RitchyBestingFace]

YANBU - she should use her inheritance to buy a lifetime supply of balaclavas and a darkened room to see out her days.

[norabattyapparently]

Leave the bastard

[WhooooAmI24601]

YABU. Not your nose, not your windfall, not your business. She might live til 100 - another 43 years knowing she could have had a nose she loved.

[Guiltismymaster]

YANBU because any woman over 50 is invisible and pointless in our society.

Unless you are concerned about her health/wellbeing OP?

[SaucyJack]

You're a long time dead OP.

Why not live while you're still alive?

[SabineUndine]

YABU in the sense that it's no more self indulgent at 57 than at 20. If she wants to, why not?

However if it were my nose, I'd be worried at how long it would take to heal, at that age.

[VeryBitchyRestingFace]

A friend of mine is considering having her nose done ( she's come into a little windfall ) which is fine, but I can't help thinking is it worth it at 57?

There's your answer. She came into a windfall. Very possibly she may have had it done earlier in life but couldn't afford it.

I will likely be having jaw surgery within the next couple of years. There is a functional element but also a strong cosmetic element.

I'm 20 years younger than your friend and felt pretty "old" for this type of procedure. Surgeon said that he sees people in their 70s getting it done.

If her nose is something she has always disliked and wanted to "fix", it sounds like a good use of money.

Even if it's a recent whim, she's not proposing to ask the NHS to pay.

[KC225]

YABU

[MsVestibule]

Why do you think she shouldn't have a nose job at 57? Genuinely interested to know your reasons why you think it's not worth it.

[EddieStobbart]

Not worth it? Do you mean because you think death is too close at her age?

How cheering. YABU.

[CecilyP]

It kind of depends. If she has an awful nose that she has hated all her life but has never been able to anything before, then I think it's fine. If it's an OK nose and this is just a sudden whim, then not so much.

[SquidgyRedBall]

YABU

I know someone who had braces at the age of 60. Nothing wrong with her teeth beforehand but she always disliked them and getting them fixed to her liking made her happy and didn't hurt anyone else.

[surferjet]

No, I'm not saying 57 is old, not at all - but I'd have thought at that age you'd be used to your features & any hang-ups would have passed? Plus her nose isn't ridiculous large or awful, bigger than average maybe but nothing overly remarkable.
But you're right. Her nose, her money, her choice.

[AverysillyoldHector]

Why exactly do you think it isnt worth it?

[MrsJayy]

She is 57 hardly wormfood is she why shouldnt she have a new nose if she wants a new nose? Yabu

[80sMum]

I think you have a point, OP. At 57, the skin and contours of the face won't just spring back into place, as they might in someone in their 20s or 30s.

Your friend has probably hated her nose all her life and sees this inheritance as a means finally to change it. But I think she may be too late. I would be interested to know what advice she receives from the surgeon, if she sees one.

[MrsJayy]

Her nose is obviously right there in front of her every time she looks in a mirror she has to look at it 27 or 57 it doesn't make a difference if you have hang ups your friend has this opportunity why not get it done.

[MrsJayy]

Cosmetic surgeons seem to know what they are doing

[VeryBitchyRestingFace]

No, I'm not saying 57 is old, not at all - but I'd have thought at that age you'd be used to your features & any hang-ups would have passed?

In addition to jaw problems, I also have alopecia. I've had it since I was a teenager, it's auto immune. So in one sense, I'm "used" to it. I don't know that I'd say any hang ups have "passed". I certainly don't like it. I wouldn't have chosen it. But I don't stand in front of the mirror crying about it either.

However, if my GP said to me tomorrow, "a cure's been found, do you want to take it?" of course I'd say yes!

Accepting/putting up with something you don't like doesn't mean you wouldn't consider changing it if opportunity/finances permitted.

All within reason, of course.

[DamnGood314]

It is worth it cos result permanent.
if she was havig lippo or a face lift then results would lsst a while.
id say do it.

[JellyBelli]

YABU. Someone posted recently that an older relative wanted to go to Uni and they thought that was a waste of time and money as well.
People are not passively waiting to die. They are living their lives.