To be a little upset by this?

(7 Posts)
miwelaisjacydo Fri 02-Sep-16 17:55:51

A good friend moved away twelve months ago to somewhere 2hours drive away. Now due to problems with her house she asked me not to come up but we met a couple of times when she came down visiting family. All good we get in great.

She is crap at keeping in touch and we can go months without texting me back but will always text back. She does contact me from time to time too.

Now I text mid July about me coming up over as her house whilst not finished was almost done. I had no reply until this week when she text to say she was sorry she forgot to text back but due to family illness and House problems she hadn't been able to leave but she was going on holiday this week and we could meet again next time she was down in September/October.

Again all ok with me but I found out today that she had been down over the summer a couple of times and had visited a college of mine. I don't expect her to visit every time but AIBU for feeling a bit let down by the fact she lied to my face.

Pettywoman Fri 02-Sep-16 17:58:12

I think that's just one of those situations that you have to shrug off and move on from. You can't see every friend each visit.

miwelaisjacydo Fri 02-Sep-16 18:01:10

It's nit that she visited and didn't see me its the fact she blatantly lied to me. I don't mind I don't see her every visit at all never have.

Pettywoman Fri 02-Sep-16 18:06:26

It's hard to say, but I doubt it was malicious although you know her and I don't. Is it more likely she's making excuses because she's a bit crap or is she distancing herself from you?

DoreenLethal Fri 02-Sep-16 18:11:05

Did she day she hadn't been down then? I can't see how she lied.

Gargamella Fri 02-Sep-16 18:13:12

I used to find it hard fitting everyone in when I went back to visit a place I'd left and I would sometimes be selective about who I told when I was coming to try to avoid giving offence. It sounds as though your friend may have tried to do something similar?

miwelaisjacydo Fri 02-Sep-16 18:28:22

she said she had not been down. In ever mind if she can't see me because it doesn't matter to me one bit. It's the fact she said she had not been near where we live when she had.

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