I know a lovely woman that I am in a group with, not a close friend more a member of a group of 25 women. She is vegan for moral reasons not medical.
We meet monthly and we are both on a committee within the group, the committee arranges food for the meetings and parties. On previous occasions I have brought vegan food so she could have something besides a salad (which she usually brings as her contribution) I honestly can't remember what I brought but it was 'mainstream', tasted good, etc. it went over poorly which I took with a grain of salt but then I noticed she didn't take what I had brought (I made a 'vegan' sign for it so it was clear) which I get, maybe she didn't care for it, but after a few attempts of it going over poorly with the group, her not taking it and me mostly eating it, I decided I was just going to bring what I wanted in the future.
Cue to a few days ago to the committee meeting. The main dish was decided, a pasta dish that can be made vegetarian and if the cheese taken off the top, vegan.
The group of women are older - I'm talking 60 and up - I'm the youngest by at least 15 years - and they are at a point they get a good prepared pasta dish and call it done. No one faffs around.
As we were sitting there the woman in question starts grousing about the choice because she can't eat it, "unless I pick off the cheese". She did not volunteer to bring a vegan version of the dish which would be quite easy to make but I think expected others to bring.
Aibu to think if you don't take the vegan food people brought, you either bring your own version of the main or at least make your salad contribution a hearty one that you can eat as your main instead of grousing because you have to alter the mains other people bring?
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TowerRavenSeven · 02/09/2016 15:20
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