Sharing forks with the DC esp after illness I think its YUK

[justgivemeamo]

I cant get my head round this, My In Laws over the years have been OCD about a crumb on the floor, Mil has said she doesnt like "hand made" food - and prefers factory stuff so it eliminates chances of germs from humans.

And yet Fil, recently struck down with nasty mystery virus is happily feeding my dd's off his spoons and forks.

I strongly prefer, in a house with a very demanding toddler who is still not sleeping well, to do all I can to prevent the spread of illness, and even between my DC, whilst not being OTT about it - I try and encourage them to keep to their own drink bottles and so on.

If they do swap, I dont freak out - make a big deal about it at all, but I do say to them, try and keep to your own forks, drinks and so on, tooth brushes.

Maybe I am wrong but I thought directly sharing saliva was the worst way to catch something> I wouldnt feel so uppity about this but in laws have made our lives - at times a total misery over their so called cleanliness....

I really dont want to seem rude, but its hard to watch.

[MrsJayy]

I think it is gross too many people will say it is fine my mum used to put the spoon in her mouth to cool my sisters food you are going to have to say something it would really freak me out and i have no germ issues i eat handmade food I also have hate seeing people eating their toddlers left over foor gives me the heebie jeebies

[differentnameforthis]

The chances are, if they live in the same house, they'll get what the other one has.

But a grandparent feeding a child off their fork is grim.

[justgivemeamo]

Thanks! I am glad at least two other people think this is rather un pleasant.

Yes I realise all living in same house is hard to keep germs away but we still try, I am not manic about it by any means.

I just dont understand FIL at all! Esp in the light of his literal freaking out over what he calls mess and germs.

I have told older DD to simply take food with her fingers and ask for her own fork next time but the other one is a toddler. I understand a sort of spur of the moment " grandpa can I try that cake" but Grandpa just started to feed her off his fork adn did it again with toddler another time...it clearly doesn't register.

Am dreading this with winter coming up an flu season. I would feel more kindly towards him if we had not had to suffer his superiority over cleanliness and germs.

[justgivemeamo]

I think its odd how MILS go this way it really really is I wonder if its more the ones who are housewives?

[Kungfupandaworksout16]

I've seen other people do it sharing cutlery with DCs, family and partners but me personally ive never been one for sharing cutlery I say it's because I hate germs but if I'm being honest I just don't like sharing food and I found that response stopped people asking to taste my food

[justgivemeamo]

Ha wrong thread sorry.

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