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AIBU in my attitude

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Ihatewankers Thu 01-Sep-16 19:25:30

Heavenly pregnant and he should have been working from home whilst waiting for a workman. I get home and he had clearly been on his side of the bed with tissues. I have comfronted him and he says he felt H...

I asked him why he didn't ask me to come home, he says he didn't think of it. It's the first time I have caught him, he insists he is not using porn or having an affair. I feel a man over 35 should be satisfied with being with his partner and ask for more if he is not getting enough. Not skiving and wanking himself.


Hotwaterbottle1 Thu 01-Sep-16 19:27:18

I think you are sorry, nothing wrong with masturbating, it's normal.

Trifleorbust Thu 01-Sep-16 19:28:05

YABU. An adult man choosing to touch his own penis - his prerogative.

Soubriquet Thu 01-Sep-16 19:28:07

What the hell is H? Horny?

He is allowed to masturbate you kbown

Trifleorbust Thu 01-Sep-16 19:29:27

And 'ask for more'? He's not Oliver Twist, is he? Bit controlling.

AThousandTears Thu 01-Sep-16 19:29:37

Ask you to come home??
What do you want to be, a booty call?

RNBrie Thu 01-Sep-16 19:29:44

Nothing wrong with having a wank. Sorry OP but yabu.

Good luck with the birth of your baby!

NavyandWhite Thu 01-Sep-16 19:30:15

You'd rather he asked you to come home? For sex? Heavily pregnant!?

Arfarfanarf Thu 01-Sep-16 19:30:38

Masturbating is not wrong.

yorkshapudding Thu 01-Sep-16 19:31:06

YABU. He hasn't done anything wrong. Did you honestly think he didn't masturbate until now? confused

0hCrepe Thu 01-Sep-16 19:31:28

Do you mean he should get you back to try to get things moving in terms of labour? Is he avoiding having sex with you?

c3pu Thu 01-Sep-16 19:31:54

So you would have dropped everything to rush home and service your husband's needs?

Masturbating is pretty normal. YABU.

JenLindleyShitMom Thu 01-Sep-16 19:32:01

What?? You expected to be called home from work to service your partner's sexual urges? Are you fucking kidding me? Take a a massive chill pill. You confronted a grown ass man about masturbating whilst alone in the privacy of his own home? Confronted? hmm it's none of your damn business is what if is. I can't believe some of the shit posted on here nowadays.

soundsystem Thu 01-Sep-16 19:32:17


And a bit weird that you immediately thinking he might be having an affair.

Masturbating is perfectly normal for people of all ages!

peppercold Thu 01-Sep-16 19:32:48

It's no reflection on how he feels about you

Batteriesallgone Thu 01-Sep-16 19:32:57

'Skiving' ? Eh?

You wanted him to call you home from work for sex? Have I got that right? Why?!

0hCrepe Thu 01-Sep-16 19:33:02

Love the term heavenly pregnant by the way, sounds so much nicer (I am too)!

WhooooAmI24601 Thu 01-Sep-16 19:33:31

Wow, I'd laugh like a drain if DH texted me at work to say he fancied a shag. And ignore it and tell him to have a wank. Masturbation is totally normal. I'm wary of anyone who says they don't like a quick fiddle.

froubylou Thu 01-Sep-16 19:34:22

Is that you Sharon?

Bambamrubblesmum Thu 01-Sep-16 19:34:24

You don't get to decide what he does with his own body. He's a grown man not a child.

I think you need to consider why you feel so threatened by it.

BathshebaAndGabriel Thu 01-Sep-16 19:35:49

Don't you wank? Maybe not while heavenly pregnant, to be fair.

EdmundCleverClogs Thu 01-Sep-16 19:37:28

Do you honestly think you can dictate (pun possible intended) to another person if they can wank or not? You seriously expect him to as you to come (pun intended) home??! Yabu. HTH.

I would love to see you explain that to your boss "sorry boss, I have to go home. DH is feeling horny and I don't like him wanking" grin

damngirl Thu 01-Sep-16 19:40:25

Have a hug. You're probably feeling shitty right now and insecure? Which is a horrible feeling. But just try to tell yourself that ALL men wank. It doesn't mean he finds you any less attractive or wants sex with you any less!

Trifleorbust Thu 01-Sep-16 19:40:33

Perhaps pushing the parameters of the discussion to ask whether the OP masturbates, Bathsheba.

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