I'm a stepmum so this is not a step parent bashing thread!
My friend has been with her dp on and off for 2 years. They don't live together, they planned to but then started arguing a lot so put it off. Her dd is 16, her ds is 7 and his dd is 11 and has NC with her mum. Her kids see their dad about 3 times a year.
I've noticed that her dp is extremely strict with my friend's kids to the point that I positively cringe. He is constantly picking at them. One ridiculous example the other day was telling my friend's ds off for eating a chip with his fingers. Same for pizza. Dinner was in a laid back restaurant and I was about to eat a French Fry with my hand thank God I didn't
Another example was demanding in a low and rather menacing tone that her dd put her phone away immediately at same dinner when she sent a quick text to her friend before the food arrived. It was so ott for a first asking. And as my dss pointed out to me privately afterwards- he was on his phone a fair bit himself at the meal.
When we play in the park he constantly tells the kids to use a quieter voice. My friend doesn't seem to like how strict he is and I watch as she composes herself and lets him get on with it. He is strict with his own daughter but I kind of feel like that's his business. Tbh my friend's kids are better behaved than his daughter though.
I'm worried because he tends to bark orders at my friend as well. "My wallet's in your bag. Get it for me." "I need x, pass it to me."
I'm biting my tongue but surely I'm not BU for thinking he's being a bit of a domineering prick and my friend needs to stick up for herself and her kids a bit more?
His reasoning is that "their dad is not really on the scene so it's my job to keep these kids sorted."
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Friend's dp is a domineering prick
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CannotEvenDeal · 01/09/2016 11:19
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