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Gobbolinothewitchscat Wed 31-Aug-16 15:26:35

I have a 3 year old DS and am about to embark on the wonderful world of children's parties at the end of the year confused

Decided that a 4th birthday party would be a good idea. It's going to be a paid for (by us) event - pizza party. Numbers not limited

I have a provisional guest list which is made up of some pals from nursery/NCT and siblings. It's around 10 children. 3 will be from his NCT group.

There is one NCT person who I've not seen for ages and I don't particularly gel with - eg our baby was admitted to hospital with sepsis and she never asked how she was but instead spent over 30 minutes telling me about her DS' sore ear. I've just let the friendship drift.

However, I wonder if I'm being a bit mean in not inviting her DS? There will be others from the NCT group there and I don't want to be unkind....DH thinks there's no need. Although DS was invited to her DS' party last year - couldn't attend. Our DS do not attend the same nursery etc so there is no chance that other DC woukd be talking about it in front of him.

I'm normally quite decisive but can't decide what to do - about this very minor issue!

squoosh Wed 31-Aug-16 15:30:19

I'd put your relationship with the child's mother aside. If your son would like to invite this boy I'd invite him. If he's not a particular friend of your son's I wouldn't bother.

Gobbolinothewitchscat Wed 31-Aug-16 15:31:57

No - not a particular friend at all. They never see each other now, really.

I just didn't want to be a heartless bastard excluding a small child

Soubriquet Wed 31-Aug-16 15:32:34

What sqoosh said.

Parties are for the child not adults. If your son wants the friend there, invite him. If not, don't

squoosh Wed 31-Aug-16 15:33:35

Nah, not heartless at all! Sounds like the friendship has run its course. So I'd let it keep on running wink

Mummaaaaaah Wed 31-Aug-16 15:36:57

i think excluding one person from a group event is a bit mean. rise above it and invite them.

Gobbolinothewitchscat Wed 31-Aug-16 15:37:09

OMG - do you all agree with me?! 😳

What is AIBU coming too

To be honest, I don't think the Lord Chamberlein can have anywhere near the same etiquette worries that these blasted parties cause!

Gobbolinothewitchscat Wed 31-Aug-16 15:37:52

Ah, welcome mumaaaah

goes back to drawing board

Soubriquet Wed 31-Aug-16 15:38:22

Well if you want a proper AIBU....

Of course yabu!! You will ruin that child's life if he doesn't go to the party. He will never get over it and will need councilling for the rest of his life!! wink

Gobbolinothewitchscat Wed 31-Aug-16 15:39:34

I might make it a child-free party!

Soubriquet Wed 31-Aug-16 15:42:36

Why not? Have a few drinks and a boogie. Perfect

squoosh Wed 31-Aug-16 15:45:11

You can have a cardboard cutout of the kids instead of actual kids!

Sounds wonderful.

Soubriquet Wed 31-Aug-16 15:45:45

You could actually play pin the ponytail on the cutout!

Gobbolinothewitchscat Wed 31-Aug-16 15:46:48

It's going to be fabulous. I will write a poem requesting cash gifts - for me

We will toast DS and, er, absent friends!

Soubriquet Wed 31-Aug-16 15:51:11

You could do pass the parcel and each layer could have a little miniature bottle of alcohol instead of sweets

Gobbolinothewitchscat Wed 31-Aug-16 19:02:53

👍. Am off to consider my guest list!

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