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Cuddlequeen Tue 30-Aug-16 16:08:25

So following on from an article I read in the daily snail that many more parents than I thought leave their children alone I thought I would ask general opinion as dh has an interview tomorrow morning while I'm at work and he has suggested leaving ds's and dd at home as he will only be an hour. Ds is 10, dd8 and ds7, they are very good not destructive and very responsible for their ages but I'm just not sure hmm

RedHelenB Tue 30-Aug-16 16:10:07

How far away from them will you both be? Think for an hour that would be fine as long as they are happy with it.

DubiousCredentials Tue 30-Aug-16 16:12:00

I have a nearly ten yr old and a 7yr old and I wouldn't purely based on the fact that the 7yr old wouldn't like it.

Cuddlequeen Tue 30-Aug-16 16:13:01

I will be best part of an hour away and on mandatory training, dh will be 20mins have his phone on constantly and not afraid to speed home if needed. Part of me rationalises that it's a short amount of time and I do trust them, the other part is anxious and wants to wrap them up in cotton wool blush

Ankleswingers Tue 30-Aug-16 16:13:50

I wouldn't leave them but that's me. Anything could happen in an hour. 7 is too young IMO.

pieceofpurplesky Tue 30-Aug-16 16:18:01

No. They are too young. Ten is far too young to be responsible for two other children which is what you are asking him to be.

Armi Tue 30-Aug-16 16:20:17

I wouldn't. They are children and need to have someone to look after them.

LadyBaelish Tue 30-Aug-16 16:21:12

Just a 10 year old I might if they were sensible but I wouldn't be happy leaving them 'in charge' of two other children.

Hoppinggreen Tue 30-Aug-16 16:21:58

I occasionally leave my very sensible 11 year old on her own for short periods.
However, I take the 7 year old with me because it's not fair on his sister to be responsible for him

RJnomore1 Tue 30-Aug-16 16:22:13

I would say it's unfair on your ten year old, and I don't believe your dh is happy to leave his phone on and run out of an interview- he would be as well not going really?

Karoleann Tue 30-Aug-16 16:23:00

No, I wouldn't - I have a 10yo and an 8yo, I've just started leaving the 10 year old for up to an hour max, but I wouldn't leave him with the 8 year old, even though he's very sensible.

GoldFishFingerz Tue 30-Aug-16 16:23:20

Ten is far too young to be babysitting siblings. The ten year old would be fine on her own for an hour but it's too much to expect her to take charge of two younger ones. Wait till she is 12 or 13

RebelRogue Tue 30-Aug-16 16:23:54

It would depend on their personalities,capabilities and whether they would be happy with it or not. We don't know your kids so we can't judge. I'd have no issues of leaving mine though

timeforabrewnow Tue 30-Aug-16 16:24:32

Nope. Too young.

Rowgtfc72 Tue 30-Aug-16 16:25:17

Dd is nine and a half and this summer she's been home alone for the hour between dh going to work and me coming home.
She has a key, phone numbers and neighbours are aware.
I'm lucky however that I have a sensible nine year old, I wouldn't leave a lot of her friends alone for more than five mins. Nor would I leave her with another child.

Natsku Tue 30-Aug-16 16:25:59

I would if they get on well together (so not likely to start fighting the moment mum and dad are gone) and they have a phone they can use to call you if needed and preferably a number of a trusted friend or neighbour they can also call if needed. And they know how to call 999 etc.

meowli Tue 30-Aug-16 16:30:57

Do you have another option?

Oblomov16 Tue 30-Aug-16 16:41:33

I agree.
When ds1 was 10 he was fine to leave for a short time. But asking him to be responsible for ds2 is too much.

OpenMe Tue 30-Aug-16 16:43:19

Agree with others. I might leave the ten yo but I wouldn't leave a ten yo in charge if younger dc.

Witchend Tue 30-Aug-16 16:45:48

No. I have a15, 12 & 9yo and I would only just leave the 12 and 9 together for a short time.

DramaAlpaca Tue 30-Aug-16 16:48:17

I'm sorry, but I think they are too young.

iklboo Tue 30-Aug-16 16:49:31

DS is a very sensible 10 and we've just started leaving him for quick journeys like nipping to the shops (15 mins max).

BertrandRussell Tue 30-Aug-16 16:55:35

If they were happy with it, I'd do it. But only if they were happy with it. I would probably spend some time tonight choosing a film for them to watch together, and buy some sort of treat-y snacks so they won't even leave the sofa!

bloodyteenagers Tue 30-Aug-16 16:58:43

I sometimes leave my 10 year old. We often chat on the phone as I walk home. He also knows he can contact a neighbour. At 7 no. And I wouldn't leave him with a younger child.

bringonyourwreckingball Tue 30-Aug-16 17:01:38

I would leave (have left) my 10 year old but not the 8 year old even though she is very sensible. I think 8 is too young, and 10 is too young to be responsible for a sibling.

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