Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Saved Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Flip

AIBU?

neighbours kid

15 replies

mynachos · 30/08/2016 16:01

AIBU..... so its still sunny. the pools out. inflated and filled this morning. let it heat up with the intention to play in with ds this afternoon. came out at 3pm next door neighbours dd hanging over the fence asking all sorts of questions (common occurance). i was abit miffed as it has slighty deflated and lost water.... so started to pump again. n.d.n dd just stands at the fence WATCHING. how do i politey ask her to do one. have a semi friendly relationship with neighbours. gerneral chitchat/christmas card type. dont want to cause offence but its doing my swede in!

OP posts:

Report

mynachos · 30/08/2016 16:24

AIBU

OP posts:

Report

gettingbythistime · 30/08/2016 16:27

Yanbu. She wants to go on the pool. If she goes in once she will always want to go in. Wld fucking hate neighbours kid homing in on my space, even if she was really nice

Report

RaptorInaPorkPieHat · 30/08/2016 16:31

How old is she? and how high is the fence?

YANBU regardless though.

Report

mynachos · 30/08/2016 16:54

the pools only tiny...... the have the ecavt same one (asda cheapo £15). my boy is 2. i think shes 11/12. they have the the same bloody pool so shes told me on several occassions. we chat politey for afew minutes wen i first go out. then i go about my business with two little beedy eyes watching everything!

OP posts:

Report

mynachos · 30/08/2016 16:56

fence is a good 6/8 feet height. she stands on a chair to look in

OP posts:

Report

tshirtsuntan · 30/08/2016 16:59

I feel your pain, my next door neighbour has 9 children and next door but one the other way has 12 (area with a high volume of families with large numbers of children due to religious beliefs) they are all lovely but I am never alone outside

Report

5Foot5 · 30/08/2016 17:40

Bloody hell. She stands on a chair so that she can peer over a 6 foot high fence? At 11/12 she is old enough to know better than that and YANBU to be annoyed.

I think in the first instance just ask her in a nice polite way. Point out that it is a bit rude to be climbing up to look over in to your garden nd ask her if she would mind not doing that.

If that doesn't work I think you could be a bit sharper and say you will have to speak to her parents if she does it again.

Good luck.

Report

mynachos · 30/08/2016 17:53

im terrible with confrontation. i say things like...."nice talking to you" & "see you later" me and the boy are going to play now. but shes nattering on about this and that..... tbf when her parents are in the garden they tell her to leave us alone. i guess she and her sibling will be going back to school this/next week..... so we have the hours of 9am-4pm for abit of p&q!!!!

OP posts:

Report

PhotosGinAndALongLieIn · 30/08/2016 19:41

Vandal grease

Report

MrsHam13 · 30/08/2016 19:46

Oh I totally sympathise too. I have the same problem with ndn boy. He comes in our front garden when we aren't out in it. Which then makes my dog bark non stop and disrupts my son. They are three. His mum just sits and watch him picking up and dropping my kids things. Climbing on my fence which has just been put back up.

My elder children had their first day back later at school last week so I went to spend the day in the garden with my son as soon as we got back and were joined by ndm kid. They then argue a lot and are in and out the house then in and out the front door and the dog gets out. Drives me nuts. I was raging at not getting to chill alone with my d's.

Report

Hariasa · 30/08/2016 19:53

Mention to her Mum
That you are concerned from a health and safety point of view that her DD is always hanging over your fence.

If she doesn't get the message follow it up with "please ask her not to"

Report

ArmyInRed · 30/08/2016 19:53

We had this too, neighbours have moved recently so we're enjoying our new found peace. The only thing that I found worked slightly was to ignore them, i did speak to their parents and they would tell them if they saw them hanging over but they were mostly out on their own.
I feel your pain though, as canny as the kids were it really did get on my nerves and limited the amount of time we spent in the garden.

Report

tireddotcom72 · 30/08/2016 20:06

I have children each side of me!! About 5 years old and they are always at the front playing on my garden!!!! Mum of one was most put out I wouldn't let her little darling come and play in our pool

Report

Cherrysoup · 30/08/2016 20:41

Id speak to the mum. It's bang out of order and would drive me flipping nuts. At her age, she's old enough to know better. I wonder if she lacks social awareness/ASD spectrum or is simply encouraged by you talking to her? Maybe she's lonely. :(

Report

mynachos · 30/08/2016 21:06

my d.p thinks shes lonely. parents dont really enjoy the garden with her. (not judging) wen her older sibling is in the garden with her i hear alot of teasing etc but thats kids for you. she is harmless really. but i defo spend less time in the garden as i feel im always on the display and cant be comfortable.