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AIBU?

Expecting him to have a functional mobile

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bettycat81 · 28/08/2016 19:22

When ex husband has DS (6) for the day (he never has him over night) aibu to expect him to have a phone with credit and battery/switched on at all times (except where no allowed)

There is a history meaning I already have little trust in ex and his relationship with DS is not very strong/reliable.

This morning at handover he had credit but no battery. Told me he was taking DS to his house where battery would be charged. He didn't take him back to his house and was turning his phone off between calling me all day. I had been trying to call him as my work finishing time is not confirmed.

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Dontlaugh · 28/08/2016 19:24

That is just abusiveness and control, even though you are no longer with him.
Give your son a mobile for the days he's with that fool and contact him directly.

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bettycat81 · 28/08/2016 19:51

Not sure on giving the 6 year old a phone... it's likely to get dropped/lost quite quickly...

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Rosae · 28/08/2016 20:00

I'd give him a cheap handset just for those days and with only your number in it. Not to be used for anything else. X

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YouWereRight · 28/08/2016 20:04

I had no mobile for the whole of June and most of August. Having a phone isn't overly odd, surely.

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bettycat81 · 28/08/2016 21:26

But he does have a phone, it works, he uses it for his work and to contact DS/me and he knows that due to the nature of my work I will/may need to contact him during the time he has DS.

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t4nut · 28/08/2016 21:32

Control freakery.

Agree collection time in advance. You have no say in whether he has a phone or not.

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HeddaGarbled · 28/08/2016 21:45

I think that you need to pick your battles. Most people in your situation don't stay in constant contact all day. Why do you need to be able to contact him due to the nature of your work? Is it because you might have to work late? Perhaps you could agree a time for handover that would take into account that possibility?

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