I have a group of close friends. We all get on brilliantly and truly care for each other.
Recently I got back in contact with someone I've known from a young age. She can be attention seeking, selfish, a bit of a fantasist, and a user of people. But she can also be kind, loyal, supportive.
I wouldn't say she's a bad person, just lacking in social skills and has a lot to learn before she becomes someone others would want to be friends with. She has literally no one but me.
I invite her out with my friends sometimes but they have now asked if she can not be invited as she spends the whole time talking about her boyfriend she's met online. While we've tried to encourage other topics and teach her how to converse l,
she cannot seem to converse normally and her conversation is very draining.
She is also very attention seeking.
She started calling me her best friend and coming round to my house constantly which I found smothering.
I decided to meet up about once every month for a few hours as she has no one else and invite to a few social events where she can maybe meet someone else and have some company.
But I don't enjoy her company. I would be doing it for her.
My friends feel it's not my responsibility to be her source of company and I owe her nothing. They also said its not a lack of opportunities but her personality which is the reason she has no friend (this is true).
I've always continued meeting up but I'm beginning to think I'm being two-faced. My friends think if I don't really Like her or enjoy her company, it's kinder to not meet up at all as meeting up will make her think she has a friend.
Are they right? My heart was in the right place, but I guess I've done the wrong thing without meaning to.
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To think it's kinder to spend time with someone you find annoying than unfriend them
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dranaksjd · 28/08/2016 13:03
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