To not know how to be an adult with no children

[justalittlelemondrizzle]

The title is a bit misleading. We have two dc's both of which have gone away with the grandparents this weekend. We were pretty young when we had them so we wern't childfree adults for very long.
So far we've gone for a meal, had a few drinks, watched a film till 3am and stayed in bed till noon.
We want to make the most of it. I suggested going on a big night out but it's manchester pride so dh doesn't think this is a good idea.
Any suggestions...We're free.....

[VioletBam]

What's up with Pride? You have to go!!

[justalittlelemondrizzle]

I really want to go to pride. He keeps saying it's not his scene.

[MiddleClassProblem]

What about going to one of those trampoline places where you bounce off the walls?

Pride is great fun but if it's not his idea of fun then I'm sure some less central places will be just cracking on as normal...

[Doobigetta]

Are you in Manchester? Go out in Didsbury tonight, it's quiet as anything because everyone's either away or at Pride.

[DementedUnicorn]

Cinema
Mini golf
Bowling
Museum
Ice skating
Bake or cook something intricate/something for more mature tastes
Hill walking

Ooh God I can think of dozens!! Anything really is better without kids - can you tell I don't have any?

[HerestoyouMrsRobinson]

Go to the Whitworth art gallery for pictures and cake, walk round at Salford Quays and drink cocktails? Go child free shopping for fun stuff?

[somekindofmother]

omg go to Libby's and eat gorgeous cake!!! it's all about the cake! and a nap! take naps! I'm so jealous!!

[Flum]

Shag, watch rude movies, eat pizza, drink wine.

[TheHeartOfASaturdayNight]

What did you do before children? Do that.

[GeneralBobbit]

Rampant sex. Constant nudity. Whipped cream.

[justalittlelemondrizzle]

Before children it was work, get high, repeat. A bit embarrassing really haha! We're obviously very different people now. Loving all these ideas.

[isanyusernamenotinuse]

My childfree life which will be permanent must be shit then. How on earth will I find things to do? I guess a childfree life is meaningless. Ffs.

[RaskolnikovsGarret]

I have accidentally found myself in both London and Stockholm Pride this year. Go for it OP and DH!

[justalittlelemondrizzle]

I think you have misunderstood my op isanyusernamenotinuse...

[scarednoob]

Blimey, overreaction much, isany ?!

[yorkshapudding]

OP, we are also child free until tomorrow. So far today DH has dragged me round a garden centre, been to the tip, spent an hour trying and failing to fix his computer (accompanied by lots of swearing) and is now asleep on the sofa

Can ditch him and come to Pride with you please?

[gingercat02]

Last time we had a child free day we painted the dining room and had an afternoon shag!

[justalittlelemondrizzle]

Haha York, a garden centre and the tip, he certainly knows how to show you a good time!! I think dh may see his arse if I go to pride with another woman!

[isanyusernamenotinuse]

Try telling me I'm overreacting when you are suffering a lifetime of infertility. No eligibility for ivf and no eligibility for adoption. Then come back and say I'm overreacting to someone who has basically said people who don't have children have nothing to do with their life. Yeah thanks for saying I'm overreacting.

[raviolidreaming]

isany - I hear you.

[isanyusernamenotinuse]

Thank you ravioli

[justalittlelemondrizzle]

I think you're being a bit defensive. I never said people without children had nothing to do I'm clearly asking for suggestions for the million and one things people without children can do without a second thought. A childfree life isn't meaningless at all. I never once said or even implied it was.
I'm sorry for your situation. I can't begin to imagine how that must feel but I don't think it's fair to attack me on what is a very innocent thread.

[DementedUnicorn]

Isay I'm child free by choice which I understand is totally different but I really can't see any offence to be taken from the thread. The OPs life is naturally dominated by looking after her children and when anything is a constant it can be difficult to remember what it was like before.

as it's obviously painful for you. for OP also for being unfairly criticised

[yorkshapudding]

isany I'm sorry, that sounds really difficult. Under the circumstances I can definitely see why this thread has upset you. I really don't think OP or anyone else was in any way suggesting that child free people have nothing to fill their time, it's about how sometimes when you spend all your time looking after kids you're not used to having free time and you sort of forget what you used to do before you had them.

[mushroomsontoast]

isany I don't think that's what the OP is saying. Quite the opposite, she's just saying she's not used to having child-free time, and out of all the options available she can't decide what to do. Sorry to hear about your situation.

OP, I'm a single parent and used to find it weird having so much time when the DC are with their dad. I suggest: Cinema, then dinner out somewhere really fancy so you have to get dressed up, drinks at your favourite pub, long lie-ins...