I have a relative that I just don't know how to cope with, they overstep my boundaries and I'm not sure if I'm bu.
They are a relative but also a friend but at times I find them hard to take. For example.
If I don't answer the phone they will ring continuously on mobile and landline and several texts. I can come from doing something to find 10 or more missed calls.
I'll go to their house or out for lunch for an agreed arrangement but they'll spend the entire time on the phone.
They'll offer to do things that I didn't even want in the first place then get all narked when I won't do a favour in return.
They say inappropriate things like for example telling people things I've said about them but making it sound worse by saying it out of context.
Telling people inappropriate things about me like telling a shop assistant "she's had a row with her husband" supposedly in a jokey way but annoying and embarrassing.
Telling my dc that they can do things that we won't be able to do without checking first then I'm left with the disappointment.
Questioning everything and pulling faces about my choices for example if I'm driving somewhere telling me I should get the train and getting annoyed when I won't take their advice, or telling me I shouldn't have bought X and should have bought Y because it's better/cheaper/nicer.
Or if I say I can't do something on a particular day telling me I should change plans and questioning why I won't.
I think this person genuinely believes that hey don't do anything wrong but I'm an introvert and I can't cope with the above.
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To find this person hard to deal with?
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Zoolander · 27/08/2016 09:22
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