To think my ex's fiancée is demanding too much?

(95 Posts)
Number20 Fri 26-Aug-16 20:47:38

By saying that he shouldn't see me at all and that he should move house to be further away from me.

I know we've had our history but AIBU to think this is controlling behaviour?

TheWitTank Fri 26-Aug-16 20:48:38

Have you got children together? How much contact do you have?

sanctimomssuck Fri 26-Aug-16 20:48:54

Depends if there are kids involved or not.

Does she have good reason to be concerned about anything?

AyeAmarok Fri 26-Aug-16 20:49:31

Do you have shared DC?

It is a bit extreme, but do you care? Do you also have a relationship with him (in the platonic sense)?

How do you know she's demanding this?

JAN1996 Fri 26-Aug-16 20:49:47

Well she's clearly threatened by you. What's happened for her to think that?

Number20 Fri 26-Aug-16 20:52:08

He said my name at an inopportune moment.

No children. Yet

Crisscrosscranky Fri 26-Aug-16 20:52:55

He's not demanding you move away but he sounds a tad dramatic.

AyeAmarok Fri 26-Aug-16 20:53:21

No children. Yet

Well if you're still having sex with him that might be why his fiancée has a problem with you grin

ItWentInMyEye Fri 26-Aug-16 20:53:33

Oh dear. Was it her initial reaction to say these things?

BillSykesDog Fri 26-Aug-16 20:53:41

Er, if your attitude is that you have no children 'yet' I can see exactly why she is keen to get away from you.

MeAndMy3LovelyBoys Fri 26-Aug-16 20:53:50

Yet? Are you pregnant with his baby?
Or do you mean no children in general.

rollonthesummer Fri 26-Aug-16 20:54:19

Do you still have a lot to do with your ex?

ScarletOverkill Fri 26-Aug-16 20:54:21

How long has it been since you split?

Bailey101 Fri 26-Aug-16 20:54:24

It doesn't sound controlling at all, it sounds like someone who wants different things to you.

TheWitTank Fri 26-Aug-16 20:54:34

Um, so you are still hoping to have kids with him?!

Crisscrosscranky Fri 26-Aug-16 20:54:36

Sorry- I just retread post - I thought it said ex fiancé!

She is being a bit controlling but does she have reason? The fact you know he said your name presumably during sex says that you are still close?

Number20 Fri 26-Aug-16 20:56:10

TBH I think she's very controlling. They got engaged after one weekend away together. That can't be healthy can it?

Number20 Fri 26-Aug-16 20:56:15

TBH I think she's very controlling. They got engaged after one weekend away together. That can't be healthy can it?

AppleMagic Fri 26-Aug-16 20:56:15

The fact that you know so much about their relationship suggests that maybe the boundaries between you are a bit blurred. I'm friends with all my ex's but I think it's important to back off a bit once they are in a new relationship. Her shouldn't really be confiding in you about how she feels about you.

RumAppleGinger Fri 26-Aug-16 20:56:36

If you don't have children with your ex you don't need to have any contact with him.

Crisscrosscranky Fri 26-Aug-16 20:56:37

P.S I do love a Friday night on MN for entertainment grin

ToffeeForEveryone Fri 26-Aug-16 20:56:58

He's your ex and you don't have kids (yet?? wtf confused ) yet you are bothered what he does and where he lives? Usually people don't care when exes move on with their lives, that's the point of them being exes.

Sounds to me like the fiancee is picking up on something! Want him back op?

MeAndMy3LovelyBoys Fri 26-Aug-16 20:57:57

What do you mean by "yet"?

Vixxfacee Fri 26-Aug-16 20:58:09

No you sound like a problem.

Bailey101 Fri 26-Aug-16 20:58:32

The updates were posted while I was typing. I would want to move away form you too if you were planning children with my fiancé hmm

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