Bit of background, I have a son who is 5 and before he started school he showed very little interest in 'friends' and was quite an anxious child about a lot of things. He started school and has made amazing progress, he seems happy to go and is doing well and generally worries a lot less. I thought we'd finally turned a corner with him and I no longer had to worry about his happiness
However, when I helped out in class i noticed that he seemed to be on his own a lot, especially when playing outside. It didn't worry me too much at first because he likes his own company but since then I've noticed that he is really trying to join in but no one is really letting him. The kids are all nice, they seem happy to see him in the morning and chat to him but then go off and play and leave him out. My husband thinks I'm worrying too much and that he'll catch up eventually but it is breaking my heart to see him constantly try and join in a game (at parties or play dates) only to be left behind looking sad and confused. I've tried having kids over and he gets ridiculously excited about the thought but then never really looks comfortable playing with them and after a couple of hours they seem to just play separately unlike the others if he is in a group.
He isn't as boisterous as most boys and isn't the type to do something even slightly naughty at school so I think this is why he isn't as appealing but he is such a lovely caring child I don't get why that isn't helping him, he's even tried being like the others but he can act and talk the same way as them and they still ignore him
I'm sure this seems trivial to most but today we were at a friends house with another boy and the other two virtually ignored him and the one hosting kept making comments about the other boy being his best friend (they aren't normally). My son looked really hurt and it's had me in tears (not in front on him of course). I just don't know what to do, I know it's early days but I can't see him ever properly fitting in 😢
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Frazzledmum123 · 26/08/2016 16:19
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