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to have walked out and bought myself a bag of chips?

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Tinklewinkle Fri 26-Aug-16 09:27:15

Honestly, I could have cried last night.

I was on a late at work, so spent the morning at home. Did a load of chores - changed all the beds, cleaned bathrooms, tidied up, hoovered upstairs and down, walked the dog, a couple of wash loads and made a cottage pie for dinner.

Got in last night just before 9 to an absolute shit tip.

Kids had obviously had the play station out as the cupboard under the TV was open with games and controllers and all sorts of shite spewing out, dog had obviously had a whale of a time digging in the garden as there was mud and grass all over the living room, clean washing was still hanging out on the line and was now wet where it had rained. Kitchen was bombed and no one had saved me any dinner (DH had dished up and instead of dishing me a plate, he'd just dumped the tray with the cottage pie in into the sink, then someone had run water, straight into the cottage pie).

In the midst of all this, DH was lying on the sofa watching TV, having been home since just after 5pm

So I left. And bought myself a bag of chips and had a lovely half an hour on the seafront eating them

He had cleared the place up by the time I got back but was a bit shirty. Was sulky this morning and has just sent a text asking if I'm planning on eating with the family tonight or storming out again.

I was so pissed off with the lot of them last night

jellycat1 Fri 26-Aug-16 09:30:32

Did you explain why you'd stormed out and tell them all the stuff you'd done? If so then yanbu. My dh gets it in the neck for much less than that! The scene you describe would have given me rage! Not saving you any dinner was particularly shit.

TheMaddHugger Fri 26-Aug-16 09:32:05

((((((((Hugs)))))))) and Shite NO you are NOT being unreasonable.

DoloresVanCartier Fri 26-Aug-16 09:32:25

Yanbu, I would text back "it depends, are you planning on doing your bit in the house and not making a mockery of the fact that I did all the chores and came into a shit tip yesterday after working all day? Are you planning on giving me a second thought and thinking I am entitled to eat also instead of rendering left overs inedible for me?"

He was a dick!

TheMaddHugger Fri 26-Aug-16 09:32:39

((((((Hugs)))))))))) NUANBU

finlayargyle Fri 26-Aug-16 09:32:39

I don't think you were being unreasonable. I've lost it for less! Just explain why.

Tinklewinkle Fri 26-Aug-16 09:33:18

I didn't really storm out. I just kind of left.

I didn't slam doors or flounce.

I just sort of said "you're having a fucking laugh aren't you? I'm going to get some food"

And left

acasualobserver Fri 26-Aug-16 09:34:18

Reply to his text with the main points in your OP.

YvaineStormhold Fri 26-Aug-16 09:36:34

I would have cried.

And my answer to his text today would be,

'Well, I was going to. But you've compounded being a selfish, thoughtless twat yesterday by being a passive aggressive dick today, so no. I won't be.'

And then I'd go to a nice cafe/my mum's/a mate's house for tea.

TheMaddHugger Fri 26-Aug-16 09:36:34

Kitchen was bombed and no one had saved me any dinner (DH had dished up and instead of dishing me a plate, he'd just dumped the tray with the cottage pie in into the sink, then someone had run water, straight into the cottage pie).
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This was the Point where I would Just HOW would you have joined the family for the meal. You were at Fucking Work WORK Aghhhhhh

Helbelle75 Fri 26-Aug-16 09:36:38

You were very calm and completely justified. I'd have been furious and had a go there and then I think.

5cats Fri 26-Aug-16 09:37:12

He's shirty and sarcastic with you? I would have gone and booked into a wee hotel, had a lovely cooked meal and had a nice relaxing evening to yourself to let him get on with his sulk. ( I may have done this in the past with my sons who had form for this sort of carry on ) grin

Emus Fri 26-Aug-16 09:37:33

I'd reply in the same vain as per Dolores post. The thing that would have upset me the most is the dinner that YOU cooked for everyone and the lack of thought for you. YANBU! flowers

MadameCholetsDirtySecret Fri 26-Aug-16 09:39:25

He sounds a delight.

Champagneformyrealfriends Fri 26-Aug-16 09:40:09

I'd have just said "you disrespectful twat" which would be enough for my DH to see how wrong he was. That's terrible behaviour on his part. flowers for you op.

Anniegetyourgun Fri 26-Aug-16 09:42:01

^ asking if I'm planning on eating with the family tonight or storming out again^

Eat what with the family? Cold cottage soup? Was he aware that your share of dinner had been ruined?

LagunaBubbles Fri 26-Aug-16 09:42:12

How are you meant to join them for dinner when he didnt save you any!

IPokeBadgers Fri 26-Aug-16 09:42:25

Love this: 'Well, I was going to. But you've compounded being a selfish, thoughtless twat yesterday by being a passive aggressive dick today, so no. I won't be.'

Says it all really. The mess was one thing but for him to not plate up or even just leave the cottage pie somewhere "safe" so you could help yourself....well, that was utterly dickish of him.

ButtfaceMiscreant Fri 26-Aug-16 09:42:31

Good on you for not just clearing up and having some toast! Maybe your DH and DC will think twice before letting something like that happen again.

Am rather envious of your seaside chip supper, sounds bliss (& picturing the look of horror dawning on your DH when he realises what he has allowed to happen is making me giggle).

I hope you have a better day/evening today tinkle

StickyProblem Fri 26-Aug-16 09:42:51

Dolores message is fab, perhaps you could add in
"rendering leftovers of the meal that I MADE inedible for me?"
YANBU at all.

LeaveMyWingsBehindMe Fri 26-Aug-16 09:44:57

YADNBU.

That would have pissed me right off. The lack of consideration over dinner in particular.

do you always leave dinner planned/prepared when you are working lates or does he ever have to take responsibility for it himself?

Beardsareweird Fri 26-Aug-16 09:45:04

YANBU. You are my new hero grin

DailyFailAteMyFish Fri 26-Aug-16 09:45:12

Oh come on. How is booking herself a room in a hotel going to help anything here?
Surely they should just talk to each other rather than sniping over phone messages and she can explain to the entire family (as they all contributed!) how shit they made her feel.

honeysucklejasmine Fri 26-Aug-16 09:46:54

Oh my god, i would have cried too. And screamed. And stormed out.

What precisely did he think you were going to eat?!

Tinklewinkle Fri 26-Aug-16 09:49:31

Was he aware that your share of dinner had been ruined?

If he wasn't before, he would have found it when he cleaned up the kitchen. And how stupid to just dump it in the sink.

I'm pissed off all over again now.

Just the way he was lying there, taking up the whole couch, didn't even get up when I came in - stupid thing to be annoyed about I guess but angry

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