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OH has unilaterally found us a new house

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Natsku Thu 25-Aug-16 08:24:47

Apparently we're moving in October. I haven't even seen the house. He's BU right?!

FeckinCrutches Thu 25-Aug-16 08:25:59

Obviously. But you left out the rest of the story.

Eebahgum Thu 25-Aug-16 08:28:12

Of course he's bu based on the information you've given us but I have the feeling there's a bigger story to tell.

treaclesoda Thu 25-Aug-16 08:30:57

Unreasonable indeed. Although there must he a back story?

Last time we moved house, we sold to a young family. The husband and kids viewed the house and the wife never saw it. We gave him our number and said that if she gave us ten minutes notice she could call any time to view it but we never heard from her. hmm

RhiWrites Thu 25-Aug-16 08:31:31

Has he inherited a haunted mansion and you need to live there for the inheritance to properly complete?

tibbawyrots Thu 25-Aug-16 08:31:51

There's far more to this.

yorkshapudding Thu 25-Aug-16 08:32:16

On the face of it, sounds like an extraordinarily shitty thing to do but we need more information really.

Does he have form for making major decisions without consulting you? Why didn't he take you with him to see the house? Had you agreed to a house move in principle/been actively looking at houses or has this come completely out of the blue?

Only1scoop Thu 25-Aug-16 08:32:24


PurpleDaisies Thu 25-Aug-16 08:33:14

How has this come about? Had you ever talked about moving? Is it local?

There are too many details missing here...

WingsofNylon Thu 25-Aug-16 08:33:18

Very strange! Has he even shown you photos?

QOD Thu 25-Aug-16 08:34:26

Renting ?
More needed

HarryElephante Thu 25-Aug-16 08:34:56

Are you splitting up? If so, this is entirely reasonable...

LumpyMcBentface Thu 25-Aug-16 08:35:15

Blimey. Is there more to this?

VeryBitchyRestingFace Thu 25-Aug-16 08:35:57

Call a plumber, folks, I think we done sprung a leak!




Oliversmumsarmy Thu 25-Aug-16 08:38:15

Neither dp or I ever viewed the house we live in now.

HarryElephante Thu 25-Aug-16 08:39:42

Did Oliver?

Natsku Thu 25-Aug-16 08:44:19

Really not much more to it, he just called me to tell me he found a house to rent with the view to buy in a couple of years. We had been looking for houses but he didn't mention any houses he'd been looking at since the last one fell through. So I think this must be a snap decision he made while I've been away the last week and a half. He tends to make snap decisions a lot but usually just on buying things for himself.

It is localish and probably not haunted... I suppose he must have just got excited at being offered a cheap house (rent is half of what we pay now) but he should have talked to me first!

Wombat44 Thu 25-Aug-16 08:44:46

Hmmm, this is like one of those lateral thinking puzzles...

Maybe they are preparing to move to another country and OP's DH is out there but she can't get there yet. In which case not unreasonable if she agrees to it.

Or maybe OP hasn't seen the house because she's blind.

Wombat44 Thu 25-Aug-16 08:45:19

Sorry OP, cross posted!

witsender Thu 25-Aug-16 08:45:52

I dunno, I told dh we were going to buy this house.

user1471552005 Thu 25-Aug-16 08:46:16

We bought a house 2 years ago ( joint ownership and mortage). My OH didn't see the house until the deeds were in our name. I made the decision and he was happy to go along with it.

Only1scoop Thu 25-Aug-16 08:46:19

Thank goodness it's to rent

I thought he'd bought it

VeryBitchyRestingFace Thu 25-Aug-16 08:48:37

If we turn your post sidie-ways OP, will we see the witch's face? <hopeful>

PurpleDaisies Thu 25-Aug-16 08:48:58

I booked a rental cottage for my dh to live in while we wait to complete on the house we're buying. Neither of us have seen it.

I'm struggling to get hugely offended on your behalf. Are you annoyed? What did you say to him when he told you? Do you like the house?

Motherfuckers Thu 25-Aug-16 08:52:22

Half the rent? I can see why he did it. If it doesn't work out, you can move.

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