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AIBU to think my DH is a c@*t?

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Pulluptothebumperbaby Wed 24-Aug-16 18:20:52

My DH asked his deceased mum's partner (who is 75) to come and help him refit our bathroom. The partner, B, drove from Devon to our home in the New Forest on Sunday.
I have been at work since Sunday night (a 64-hour duty! That's life in the NHS, folks!) and came home this morning to find B working hard in the bathroom and DH is in bed looking at his iPad! What???

It seems that because B is not prepared to do a half-arsed, slap dash job (DH's preferred way of working), DH has had a strop and has left B to get on with it.
Poor B is working so hard - on his knees, up and down the stairs, heavy lifting etc - and I feel mortified that he's been left to it. I asked DH what they had eaten and he said he bought some sausage rolls from Morrissons for him. And not even the bakery ones - the crap Value six pack.
I said I'd make a lasagne tonight so poor B would have a decent (ish) meal after a day of hard work. Mid way through preparing it, DH announces he's driving to Oxford to collect a storage box for his bike (that he hasn't ridden for SEVEN years).
Jesus Christ. I could fucking kill him. Who treats an elderly man like this?
This is not the behavior of a kind man. I think I hate him. AIBU?

DoreenLethal Wed 24-Aug-16 18:23:16

Cunt. You can say it out loud on here. And yes he appears to be one!

molyholy Wed 24-Aug-16 18:24:00

Yep. He's a cunt.

JudyCoolibar Wed 24-Aug-16 18:25:30

YA so NBU. Tell him if he drives to Oxford before the job is finished you're changing the locks and throwing his stuff out.

ApocalypseSlough Wed 24-Aug-16 18:25:55

Well I was coming in to say something smart alecy about cats but yeah, that's really poor.
Will your DH be back for tomorrow? He needs to grow the fuck up and help, even if it means shuffling about ineffectually and being bollocked. Which is what helping means.

DropYourSword Wed 24-Aug-16 18:26:01

Back up, back up...a SIXTY FOUR hour shift. In what world!!

TooGood2BeFalse Wed 24-Aug-16 18:31:02

He's totally in the wrong and I am mortified for you!Let him have it, OP!

JenLindley Wed 24-Aug-16 18:31:43


What an absolute bellend! I'm guessing this isn't out of the blue cuntishness and you had a fair idea he was like this?

123rd Wed 24-Aug-16 18:33:54

Wow, my husband can be a lazy arse but that really does take the piss. I would have the biggest go at him -in front of everyone !

JackBauersBag Wed 24-Aug-16 18:34:33

He's a cunt.

DeathpunchDoris Wed 24-Aug-16 18:34:49

Yeah, right

oldlaundbooth Wed 24-Aug-16 18:34:59

He needs a wake up call.

JackBauersBag Wed 24-Aug-16 18:35:22

(also I'm currently buying property in the new forest)

Pulluptothebumperbaby Wed 24-Aug-16 18:36:01

He's already fucked off to Oxford. The cunt. I'm leaving at 4am to do the six hour drive to my parents so hopefully I won't see his cunty face before I go.

Drop your sword - it was a 64 hour duty. Work a shift from 4pm-midnight on Sunday then on-call all night (up most of the night) then shift from 8am to 10pm Monday and Tuesday with overnight on-calls (again, working most of the nights). 1am this morning saw me sobbing into a hard, rough NHS tissue as my legs no longer worked and my brain was broken.

Cunt husband-induced seething caused fitful sleep this morning. I'll be off to bed shortly for my early start.

I just had to vent so hopefully I'll sleep better!

Pulluptothebumperbaby Wed 24-Aug-16 18:38:45

Oh and I forgot......when I arrived home this morning a broken and wrecked woman, cunt face asked me to join him in bed as he wanted to DTD as we wouldn't get an opportunity before I go away.

What a selfish, delusional cunt.

SpiritedLondon Wed 24-Aug-16 18:38:47

I would be so ashamed of my DH if he did this. At the very least he should be doing the running around and lifting so all your guest has to do is the expert bit. ( ie be the labourer). He also would be leaving the house OVER MY DEAD BODY! Ps thank you for all your hard work in the NHS. We heart you smile

niceupthedance Wed 24-Aug-16 18:40:56

Fucking hell, your husband is a right knob.

JudyCoolibar Wed 24-Aug-16 18:41:34

Completely off the point, but how on earth are those working hours compatible with the Working Time Directive?

JudyCoolibar Wed 24-Aug-16 18:43:15

So did you make him get his arse out of bed and at least do some work before he buggered off to Oxford?

pasic Wed 24-Aug-16 18:43:40

Well at least the elderly gent gets to go home, you're stuck with the bastard.

Or not.......

MoreCoffeeNow Wed 24-Aug-16 18:44:39

I'm amazed you managed to resist he's romantic advances.

isthistoonosy Wed 24-Aug-16 18:44:54

Is B still working? Honestly id thank him profusely apologise on your soon to be ex OH behalf and tell him if he can possibly leave you with a working loo you will get someone in yo do the rest.

MoreCoffeeNow Wed 24-Aug-16 18:44:58


bluebeck Wed 24-Aug-16 18:45:36

YANBU. Does he have any redeeming features?

IdaDown Wed 24-Aug-16 18:49:22

LTB and move in with your "FiL" (platonic).

He (FiL) sounds like better company and no crappy diy.

<not joking>

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