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To be really annoyed at this reaction to birthday cake?

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qualitycontrolrequired Wed 24-Aug-16 14:55:16

Ok - so it was my DC's birthday the other week and due to allergies, I always have to make birthday cakes.

Every year I've pushed myself and got a little bit more adventurous. Started with badly burnt, sloppily iced crappy cake on year one and a few years later I've managed to do pretty well.

This year I decided to try stacking cakes and made a really cool cake that looked great. It wasn't the most professionally-finished thing, but it was pretty good. All the family were really impressed and, yes, it made me feel good as I'd really gone out of my comfort zone.

But one parent of a friend of his actually commented to one of my best friends during his party that it was unnecessarily large and I was just showing off. This is a woman who always pays a local cake maker a small fortune to make really elaborate cakes.

AIBU to feel very annoyed/upset? I just wanted my child to have an amazing cake, just like the ones cake makers can make but without the hefty price tag.

donji Wed 24-Aug-16 14:59:38

sounds like sour grapes, go even bigger next year!

whateveryousay Wed 24-Aug-16 15:00:15

I'd be wondering why your best friend passed this on? It was never going to make you happy, what was she hoping to gain? Yes, it was an unpleasant (jealous) comment, but I don't imagine it was intended for your ears.

myownprivateidaho Wed 24-Aug-16 15:02:50

Yeah, agree that the friend is a dick for passing this on. I might raise an eyebrow too if someone had made a towering creation for a party of 5 seven-year-olds, but I wouldn't say it to the hostess!

acasualobserver Wed 24-Aug-16 15:05:07

It's best to laugh at people like that - perhaps that's how your friend thought you would react?

bibbetybobbetybooo Wed 24-Aug-16 15:07:17

Good point about my friend passing it on - I think she was genuinely really upset on my behalf that someone was being nasty. I hope so, anyway.
It was a two layer cake but was pretty big as it was a large party. You know, one of those 'crap, we need to invite the whole class' parties that you get when they're younger. So I made it big to ensure they all got a piece. I actually only just made about enough!
Yeah - think I'll go four tiers with the whole bloody works next time. I was so pissed off.

acasualobserver Wed 24-Aug-16 15:18:00

You've had a name malfunction!

bibbetybobbetybooo Wed 24-Aug-16 15:21:21

Name malfunction? Confused!!!

amprev Wed 24-Aug-16 15:22:40

Two different user names for your posts?

wigglesrock Wed 24-Aug-16 15:26:14

You've posted under two names. I don't know it depends how it was said - was it "ffs who does she think she is with her big cake?" or was it more of a "Christ look at the size of that - puts us all to shame" type of remark. I've commented "show off" when my friend has brought out a birthday cake but thats just how we talk to each other.

Your helpful friend hmm who repeated the comment back to you may have misinterpreted it.

hesterton Wed 24-Aug-16 15:29:09

Cake pic or it didn't happen!

AlpacaPicnic Wed 24-Aug-16 15:34:07

Oh, I'd have to go totally P/A on this one... 'thank goodness I made such a huuuuuuuge cake, I wanted there to be some leftovers for grandma/Jill next door/imaginary friends but there was only just enough to go round <wail, sad face etc>

Next time use sparklers as well. Or make a life sized elephant...

bibbetybobbetybooo Wed 24-Aug-16 15:34:18

Have I? That's really odd! I changed my name the other day - not sure what's happened!

Anightmare Wed 24-Aug-16 15:34:59

She was jealous and very rude.

WhooooAmI24601 Wed 24-Aug-16 15:35:46

What a cheeky twat, she's clearly just jealous.

No such thing as a too-big cake.

wherethefuckisthefuckingtuna Wed 24-Aug-16 15:36:47

Push her face in it.

bibbetybobbetybooo Wed 24-Aug-16 15:37:16

AlpacaPicnic - I think I might do that approach! Sorry - cake pic would massively give me away but I promise it was bloody cool! Apparently the comment was properly nasty, along the lines of 'Jesus Christ, that's a bit bloody big. Why is she showing off so much?'

The lovely lady paid someone over £100 recently for a pink princess castle cake. £100!!! Ridiculous!!!

Oldraver Wed 24-Aug-16 15:37:26

I think Iwould have fun with it and pointedly ask her if she got some cake s you were worried there wasn't enough to go round.

Then mark her down as a bitch

DixieWishbone Wed 24-Aug-16 15:37:56

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

foursillybeans Wed 24-Aug-16 15:39:06

Did your DS like it? If so then what does it matter. He's is the only person you are trying to impress isn't it?

foursillybeans Wed 24-Aug-16 15:39:27

He is smile

BagPusscatnip Wed 24-Aug-16 15:39:56

She is a jealous cow. Ignore the sour old boot and make an even bigger and better one next year!

ayeokthen Wed 24-Aug-16 15:41:49

I think it sounds like she was feeling jealous and inadequate because you made a fab cake and she doesn't. I make cakes for our kids, because I enjoy it and because it's something I enjoy being able to do for them.

Funnyface1 Wed 24-Aug-16 15:42:00

I understand how you feel as my little boy has food intolerances and its so important to me to find awesome alternatives for him and I'm always so pleased when I cook/bake him something new and it turns out well. He has recently had a birthday and this was the first year he's had a great cake. It meant the world to me and him. Don't let this silly woman upset you. It obviously nothing to do with the cake and all to do with her bad attitude and miserable life.

AlpacaPicnic Wed 24-Aug-16 15:46:07

Aaaaand she now goes to the back of the line for cake. Which there will sadly be not-quite-enough of because you don't want to 'show off'

Ha! No cake for you Bitch!

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