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To be annoyed that dp... (Petty klaxon)

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Lemond1fficult Wed 24-Aug-16 13:39:27

As part of our informal arrangement on who pays for what, I tend to buy and cook dinner. I do this day-by-day, so whatever's in the fridge is for that evening. The rest of the time, we fend for ourselves.

When dp and his colleague work from home they buy a couple of things for lunch (bread, soup), but also raid that evening's stuff as a supplement.

It really annoys me, as sometimes it means we don't have everything we need for that evening. I also don't see why I should pay for their lunches.

I know it's a bit petty, but AIBU?

HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone Wed 24-Aug-16 14:12:13

It's not petty to be cross that you don't have everything in for dinner but I cannot get past that fact that both you and your DH both shop every day? Would it not be easier to sit down together and do a meal plan and stick it on the fridge. That way he knows what the food is being used for, for example I cannot use the ham because we are having ham and leek pie on Thursday but also he would have enough stuff in for himself and work collegues to eat for lunch??

c3pu Wed 24-Aug-16 14:15:16

His work colleague is having lunches subsidised by yourself, and not contributing anything to the household?

I'd be annoyed about that too.

myownprivateidaho Wed 24-Aug-16 14:19:43

You wouldn't be unreasonable to ask that he makes sure that there's something in for dinner if he eats what's in the fridge! I think once you're at the point of sharing food it is a bit petty to say you won't buy your DH's lunch. Not unreasonable at all to buy food day by day, it's what i do too and makes for less waste, especially if you don't have a life that's predictable enough for weekly meal planning.

Lemond1fficult Wed 24-Aug-16 14:26:11

Yeaaaah... headsdown I know it makes less economic sense to buy day-to-day, but we both travel for work or go out a lot. So I've tried shopping in advance/meal plans but just ended up chucking things away. So this is the best way for us.

c3pu his colleague does bring lunch things everyday - it's my dp who 'pimps their lunch' with whatever he finds in the fridge. It's SO annoying.

All I want is for them to ask themselves -'did I buy this? No. So I won't eat it.'


ImperialBlether Wed 24-Aug-16 14:27:03

Well, I'd take it that he had to go out and replace it! If he wants to subsidise his colleague, he can, but he'd have to replace every item.

KittyKrap Wed 24-Aug-16 14:33:12

Give colleague an itemised bill at the end of the week. Or lick everything in the fridge.

c3pu Wed 24-Aug-16 14:46:26

Cook yourself dinner one night and say there isn't enough food as he ate lunch out of the fridge.

MrsTerryPratchett Wed 24-Aug-16 14:51:54

Cook yourself dinner one night and say there isn't enough food as he ate lunch out of the fridge.

This grin

Inertia Wed 24-Aug-16 14:54:35

Can you adjust the timing so that you buy that evening's dinner after lunch- e.g. on your way home from work?

Lemond1fficult Wed 24-Aug-16 15:25:42

Thanks for your suggestions, everyone. I particularly like kitty's suggestion of licking everything . Though don't think it would put them off somehow, the dorty wee gits.

I did just have a very calm word with him about not doing it, and he looked all sad and shuffled off to the shops to get replacements. Which would be fine if he'd do it every day.

What's annoying is that it's usually food he never buys, like very nice cheese, because he thinks it's unhealthy. Then I have to watch as it gets decimated day by day.

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