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ZenMom Tue 23-Aug-16 22:55:45

Ok so in the queue at morrisons. Get to the end and realise oh shit I've left my bank card at home as had taken it out my phone case to order something and forgot to put it back in.

No harm, have another with me for my savings account so very nicely apologise to the cashier and explain I'm just going to do a quick bank transfer as left card at home.

Seemed pretty reasonable to me and wouldn't take but a moment.

Woman behind me starts tutting and tapping her foot. It's literally been seconds.

I turned and apologised for the two minute delay and she actually scowled and tutted again.

I said, in a moderate tone, we've all done it or something like it I suppose.

She replied - well no not me, I never go into a shop without being able to pay for my purchases.

Flabbergasted at that point and say - well I wish I were as perfect as you. And turned away.

Woman serving me says, to me, there's no need for that attitude.

So now I am not just mildly irritated by the sanctimonious wifey behind me but really wanting to bitch slap the woman serving me.

I asked her if she had actually heard the convo before what I said. She said yes and the woman hadn't deserved it - it wasn't her causing the delay after all.

I must add that by this point the transaction on my phone was long done and I had been ready to pay.

Yes I realise I made an error in the card but hell, kids, work, life, human error - when a) did people lose all tolerance and b) since when is it ok for a cashier (or any employee where you are the customer) to jump in on a conversation and side with one person.

I did go to the supervisor who had witnessed it and she smiled and said she knew I would be coming over and had heard to and agreed the cashier shouldn't have butted in. Then I'm thinking - if she bloody heard it why let me be out through the awkwardness.

Mystified sad

Where it goes I have no idea but I'm left feeling very angry and as if human error is no longer tolerated --and really really wanting to do physical harm to another person.
I don't think my feelings are unreasonable - no I'm a grown up and wouldn't act on my impulse to violence - maybe some will say I'm letting it get to me lol but my god I needed a rant.


Amelie10 Tue 23-Aug-16 23:39:58

Well yes you were very rude.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta Tue 23-Aug-16 23:42:17

So you held the rest of the queue up while you transferred the money? Is this a reverse? It's such a dickish thing to do, I would have been moaning too.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta Tue 23-Aug-16 23:43:22

And you asked the cashier their opinion then acted like a twat when they gave it!

ZenMom Tue 23-Aug-16 23:43:24

A bank transfer takes like 45 seconds on the app.. That's holding someone up?

ZenMom Tue 23-Aug-16 23:44:04

Livia - I didn't ask the cashier her opinion...

LiviaDrusillaAugusta Tue 23-Aug-16 23:44:22

Course it is. People are instantly going to get arsey if you are fucking about transferring money. If you had left the queue and then come back it would have been bette

Amelie10 Tue 23-Aug-16 23:44:42

The cheek of you to be so rude and mouthy when you held the queue up.

Queenbean Tue 23-Aug-16 23:46:18

You were being rude

Why didn't you just step out the queue for a moment, or apologise profusely for the delay?

usual Tue 23-Aug-16 23:46:18

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JinkxMonsoon Tue 23-Aug-16 23:46:48

I think you're making a mountain out of a molehill, dude.

It's annoying to be held up in supermarkets. There was no need to get embroiled in rows with the woman, the member of staff AND be fizzing with rage hours later!

LiviaDrusillaAugusta Tue 23-Aug-16 23:46:51

This has to be a reverse, surely? Nobody is that unaware?

ZenMom Tue 23-Aug-16 23:48:09

Erm if I'd have stepped out of the queue their delay would have been more than 45 seconds... Not sure of the logic there.

I'm not expecting anyone to agree God forbid lol but I'm glad I have more tolerance clearly. I've been held up with people forgetting things in their shopping and running back, cards declining, whatever but have the patience to wait.

WorraLiberty Tue 23-Aug-16 23:48:12

It's the sort of situation where you have to be there I guess.

Because in my mind, that would have taken a lot longer than 'seconds'.

Also one person's 'moderate tone' (especially when flustered), is another person's bitch voice.

It probably took a lot for the cashier to pull you on your attitude to be fair.

But I'd put it out of your mind now and move on.

usual Tue 23-Aug-16 23:48:52

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta Tue 23-Aug-16 23:50:29

other than old people or people with disabilities, people who fuck about at checkouts really fuck me off! And are you really saying you are the tolerant one? shock

usual Tue 23-Aug-16 23:50:53

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WorraLiberty Tue 23-Aug-16 23:51:45

And also (again to be fair) the supervisor did what she's been trained to do - and that's to smile and nod.

The main aim, is to get the complainant out of the store without having to go through the hassle of them making a formal complaint.

If you'd said her granny was a pole dancer, she probably would have nodded and agreed grin

ZenMom Tue 23-Aug-16 23:52:52

I was very zen and remained calm and the surprisor agreed with me. My anger remained and still does remain internal. I'm not getting the reaction at all tbh over 45 seconds (at most) but hey ho. I'll just need to be glad that the next time someone holds me up i will remain in my zen like state smile

LiviaDrusillaAugusta Tue 23-Aug-16 23:53:11

And the queue wasn't being held up by the cashier or the woman behind you.

And agree with pp that using the phrase bitchslap is really cuntish

APlaceOnTheCouch Tue 23-Aug-16 23:53:49

I'm glad I have more tolerance
You don't sound very tolerant grin

LiviaDrusillaAugusta Tue 23-Aug-16 23:54:14

The woman could have been having a bad day or she could have been pissed off with you - no idea why you are simmering about it still though.

DropYourSword Tue 23-Aug-16 23:54:54

We all make mistakes. I've done similar to you in the past having forgotten my card. But I would have been extremely apologetic to the woman waiting behind had I been you. It's irritating enough being stuck behind someone who acts like it's a complete surprise that they have to pay once their shopping has been rung through, and spend ages looking for their purse and getting out their card or money. Most people would be irritated at you taking longer transferring money. Most people would be a bit more understanding and accepting if you genuinely apologied and acknowledged their take on the situation.

usual Tue 23-Aug-16 23:54:58

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calzone Tue 23-Aug-16 23:56:34

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ not one person agrees with you πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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