Interesting discussion with DH today, and a little disagreement.
He text me at lunch time to say he might go and see a friend of ours this evening. She is someone we're both close friends with who we spend quite a bit of time with, either in the pub or she'll come around here for an evening (involving us cooking, picking her up and dropping her off)
The conversation went back and fore a little and then he said
"i got to thinking if we don't make more of an effort with people, then why would they bother seeing us"
i replied "i agree but how much effort has she made for us lately?"
and he said "When was the last time we went to her house?"
and there the discussion turned into a disagreement.
As i said when she comes here, we invite her, we cook, we pick her up, often help her run a couple of errands as she always wants to go to the shop, we feed her, entertain her and then take her back home.
On her part, she invites us to the pub and we go join her for a drink there.
DH seems to feel that because we don't go over to her house, and she always comes here, that she is making all the effort.
I disagree, because if we didn't invite her or pick her up, she wouldn't come, so by extending that invitation to her and feeding and acting as taxi, we're doing more than enough 'making an effort'
Who is right?
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To think you don't need to visit someones home to be 'making an effort' on the friendship?
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MaddyHatter · 23/08/2016 21:31
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