Need your opinions please

[zofranks]

So...my friend and her OH both have good jobs, their dd is just about to start school so the household bills will change as they have been paying an astronomical amount for nursery for 3 1/2 years. Now she has asked me if it is still fair for her pay 50/50 on all the bills & household expenses, I am trying to be careful because tbh I don't like her OH, I think he is a knob - he earns almost £40k, she £30k - they have always split everything 50/50, I think he should pay the higher share maybe 60/40 split? he says he can't do that because he has more outgoings than her - all his own 'treats' I may add, never anything towards the house or family, if they get short in the month because he has decided to treat himself then she bails them out. AIBU to tell her to stop this & demand he pays more or should I keep my nose out & my mouth shut? She has asked me as I am her bf but part of me thinks I am just automatically going to side with her because of him anyway.

[VioletBam]

They should mix all the money, pay the bills, add some to savings and then what's left should be split equally.

[Floralnomad]

IMO it's none of your business and that's what you should tell her .

[nennyrainbow]

So they live together, they have a 4 yo DD together and they still have "my expenses" and " your expenses"? That seems odd to me. I also don't get what starting school has to do with it. How have they been splitting the nursery fees so far? Why should it be different now?
In any case, unless she specifically asked your advice, I would keep out of it anyway. What arrangements they have between themselves is their business.