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AIBU?

Just caught husband watching p***

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Toofattorun · 22/08/2016 14:49

...on the toilet on his iPhone. He panicked and tried his best to get rid of it before I saw but it was too late. Then he completely denied it. I'm so angry with him as he never comes near me yet always disappears off for a half hour 'shit'. I told him not to talk to me. How should I proceed with this? I cant believe he denied it to my face.

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Tiggeryoubastard · 22/08/2016 14:52

Do you mean porn? If so bloody well say so. You are an adult, aren't you?

HuskyLover1 · 22/08/2016 14:52

Most men watch porn. I think the bigger issue, is that he doesn't come near you. Have you discussed that?

MrsTerryPratchett · 22/08/2016 14:52

Is the issue the porn or your sex life? Because people can wank and still have a sex life. I'm not a fan of porn so is that the issue.

Also, 'caught' him on the toilet? Maybe privacy is an issue as well.

HighwayDragon1 · 22/08/2016 14:54

Porn, porn, porny, porny, porn, porn.

It's porn not p* porn

Toofattorun · 22/08/2016 14:54

Yes I mean porn..I was just worried about having it in the title in case any kiddies were reading over their mum/dads shoulder.

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Whatsername17 · 22/08/2016 14:55

You need to talk about it. Lots of people will tell you that porn isn't an issue. However, porn and porn use can become addictive. It gives the user an instant 'hit' which is quick, easy and negates any actual intimacy. Not a problem unless the use is overly frequent and/or in place of real sex. You are angry and hurt, but when you talk you should try not be be judgemental. Your bigger issue is the lack of sex between the two of you. Good luck.

NoahVale · 22/08/2016 14:56

i wouldnt want to see my dh on the loo, never mind anythign else

GummyBunting · 22/08/2016 14:56

What sort of agreement do you have as a couple regarding the use of porn?

NoahVale · 22/08/2016 14:56

but agree, that he never comes near you is not good

Toofattorun · 22/08/2016 14:57

The issue is that he doesn't talk about sex when I bring it up. He never wants to talk about our love life. He just says nothing's wrong.

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JigglypuffsCaptor · 22/08/2016 14:58

I'm going to completely go off thread and ask why did you burst in on him in the loo?

But on topic, do you not want him to watch porn? Do you want to get your sex life back on track? Are you concerned he's rplacong you with porn? All are valid and woorrying questions but it's only him that you can really talk about this with and reach a solution. Good luck.

elQuintoConyo · 22/08/2016 14:58

My husband was having strange pains for a few days. Via having a w he passed a kidney stone.

I don't know if he was thinking of me, Mrs Miniskirt from the bus or p on his Samsung. The reason I don't know? Privacy.

We both hate the porn industry, so I doubt it was that. Does your partner hold the same views on p* as you?

ThePinkOcelot · 22/08/2016 14:59

To me, the issue wouldn't be the porn, but his not coming near you. I think you need to talk to him tbh.

JigglypuffsCaptor · 22/08/2016 14:59

Cross post , ahh that makes it obviously more difficult. Have you told him frankly and honestly that you feel he never comes near you?

Arfarfanarf · 22/08/2016 15:00

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Toofattorun · 22/08/2016 15:00

We don't have an agreement on the use of porn as he never admits to watching it and even if I've seen him with my own eyes, he denies it.
It's gaslighting at its best.

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StuffandBother · 22/08/2016 15:01

I thought this thread was about racism as that's the only time I have even known a word needing to be asterisked!!

I bet you need eye bleach now ... a shitting wanking man is a friend to no-one!

MrsTerryPratchett · 22/08/2016 15:01

What does 'not come hear you' mean? No sex, ever? No kissing, hugging at all. Some sex but not frequent enough for you? Sorry to ask but it is relevant...

BartholinsSister · 22/08/2016 15:02

Is your DH forbidden from masturbating?

ABloodyDifficultWoman · 22/08/2016 15:02

What's with all the in words on this thread? What is a w? Is it a WANK? Have we been invaded by a bunch of nuns or something?

Toofattorun · 22/08/2016 15:03

I've told him, but he just says he does (he doesn't) or that he tries and I don't want to which has only happened once as the dc were playing in the next room and kept coming in to our room.

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kensausage13 · 22/08/2016 15:04

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Toofattorun · 22/08/2016 15:05

We have sex about three times a year.
He does hug me but we don't kiss, not in the French sense.

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RebeccaWithTheGoodHair · 22/08/2016 15:07

But on the toilet though!!

Arfarfanarf · 22/08/2016 15:08

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