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Bombaypie Fri 19-Aug-16 15:38:56

Having pub lunch at our local with DH and the children, 3 and newborn baby.

DD(3) has been swimming with DH all morning and I've been on a cluster feeding marathon with the baby since 5am. Hence we are all pretty tired.

DH technically working this afternoon, so was sending some emails on his work phone. I was on MN on my phone. Baby asleep and DD happily occupied on the iPad playing a children's game while we waited for our food to come.

A woman walks past on her way out for a cigarette, stops at our table and rolls her eyes, saying "the modern family" sarcastically, before walking out.

It just felt so mean and judgemental of a tiny snapshot of our day. I don't think we spend excessive time on our phones etc, and DD had colouring books and reading to keep her entertained as well- but it made me feel self conscious for the rest of the meal.

Lonnysera Fri 19-Aug-16 15:41:57

You don't need the approval of anyone. Screw you fags-lady.

GahBuggerit Fri 19-Aug-16 15:42:42

shes a weirdo, ignore!

MrsTerryPratchett Fri 19-Aug-16 15:43:07

Just be glad that you brightened her mean-spirited day just a little. So she could feel better about her lemon-sucking judgement.

You made the world a better place.

Newes Fri 19-Aug-16 15:44:29

It's the sort of thing we'd say as a family if we all have our noses stuck in devices at the same time. From a complete stranger? Totally her problem, not yours, as she knows fuck all about you.

WhooooAmI24601 Fri 19-Aug-16 15:45:16

People like that are dicks, no question. Let it go because people only act that ways when they're feeling shitty about themselves - it's never a reflection on you.

Trooperslane Fri 19-Aug-16 15:49:28

What a fucking twat.

I'd be mentally chinning her. 😑

Trixieceratops Fri 19-Aug-16 15:53:40

What a twat. Imagine having to live in her head!

Well done on being out and about with the little one!

hazeyjane Fri 19-Aug-16 15:53:52

Next time make sure your dd is drawing with some chalk on a slate and your dh is doing some whittling.......

Just shrug off the daft comment, mentally flip her the bird and get on enjoying your day.

WorraLiberty Fri 19-Aug-16 15:54:13

She should definitely have kept her thoughts to herself.

I'll hold my hands up and admit it's a bugbear of mine, when I see families out for a meal, all with their noses stuck in their various devices.

But I'm well aware it's none of my business, so I say nothing (obviously) and concentrate on my own family.

LifeIsGoodish Fri 19-Aug-16 15:57:59

If you'd all been sitting there with books in your laps nobody would have batted an eyelid. But being on tech - ssssss, noooo.

Now if you were all teching in an art gallery or ignoring bored dc, that would be a different matter, and I'd be giving myself a judgey-pants wedgie!

blitheringbuzzards1234 Fri 19-Aug-16 16:02:45

Don't take any notice of the daft cow. If she was going out for a fag that's not very edifying, is it? And obviously when your food arrived you all put your devices away and ate and talked like normal people, didn't you?

hazeyjane Fri 19-Aug-16 16:04:26

I wish I'd remembered to bring the tablet out when we just went into town for coffee. As it was the dds played hangman, whilst ds sat under the table twiddling a bit of ribbon attracting gawpy starers, and I practised my best scowly face. It was NOT relaxing, and now my head hurts from the scowling.

StillStayingClassySanDiego Fri 19-Aug-16 16:09:05

stops at our table and rolls her eyes, saying "the modern family" sarcastically, before walking out.

Who the bloody hell did she think she was to pass comment like that, utter cow!

Did you give her the death stare?

Giratina Fri 19-Aug-16 16:10:51

Ignore, she doesn't have a clue. I have a child free friend who posted a rant on Facebook a while back about a child in the doctors waiting room with an iPad and how unnecessary it is, in her day it was colouring books and crayons. My DD has plenty of things that weren't around "in my day" that's no reason not to use them now, times move on and if playing an iPad game keeps a child still and quiet for a while in a boring situation for them then what's the problem.

kate33 Fri 19-Aug-16 16:13:00

I'm sorry you were upset op, she sounds vile. Probably can't hold her drink. She said it sarcastically but you should take it as a compliment - yes that's how modern families spend SOME of their time together. I love it when we're all doing our own thing but together.I bet you looked lovely and peaceful sat there and she felt jealous. I find it amusing that she was so self righteous when she was going out for a flag!

Fortybingowings Fri 19-Aug-16 16:13:18

I'd have followed her outside discreetly, pausing while she is mid-fag. Then I'd comment that it's a good job such a large portion of the cost of cigarettes will go towards her lung cancer and emphysema treatment...

BoffinMum Fri 19-Aug-16 16:14:12

She's a smelly bitchface. That would have hurt my feelings too. I wish things like that didn't, but they do, particular when one is tired and hormonal. But we all love you on here and we've all done things like that.

She's probably jealous at your postnatal radiance and gorgeous children anyway. She was probably trying not to admit that to herself whilst puffing on her cancer stick in the rain. wink

currentlyunavailable Fri 19-Aug-16 16:16:25

Some idiots cannot comprehend that some of us can go only go on holiday because we can still do a few hours of work here and there. So you give an ipad to your kid in a restaurant? Instead of letting your child wait miserably for the food, being told off for being disruptive, or running around the restaurant and being a nightmare?

It's very rude to leave the table during diner for a cigarette and to make comments to strangers, so please ignore.

cdtaylornats Fri 19-Aug-16 16:28:07

I wouldn't have said it, but I might well have thought it.

KimmySchmidtsSmile Fri 19-Aug-16 16:28:17

Oh OP flowerscakebrew I posted this to someone else already but
I had the same the other week cos I had DD and DS glued to Peppa Pig in an ex pat pub (empty bar us and one other guy) Sod the fact that we had been at the park for FOUR hours. Some random approached me after DH had nipped out to escort our eldest back. He then (in German) offered to play with my children. hmm
DD2 confused DS confused Me: confused
He spent some time trying to explain paper, rock, scissors (which mine know) when DD just said (in German) Black hole. I win!
repeatedly until he gave up.
DH came back and said Can't leave you alone for 5 minutes Kimmy.
Was all very strange and his problem. He said he and his kids always interact without evil technology. We did wonder if he was trying to beat Peter Andre for Dad of the year, why he was in the pub alone grin. There are judgy people
all over and they only ever see a snapshot. Don't sweat it.

EastMidsMummy Fri 19-Aug-16 16:30:07

YABU to take any notice of her. Ignore. Not worth your concern, or a thread.

MrsTerryPratchett Fri 19-Aug-16 16:30:30

Balck hole I win grin Should have taught the weird man Rock Paper Scissors lizard Spock. Just to confuse him.

TheWeeBabySeamus1 Fri 19-Aug-16 16:31:08

She's a smelly bitchface

My new favourite insult grin

CafeCremeMerci Fri 19-Aug-16 16:31:56

I feel the glare quite often 😁

Term time is madness and the 11 yo barely remembers she has an iPad, but in the holidays we sometimes take them out with us.

On Wednesday we went from one thing to another all bloody day from about 8:30 until about 6 (dentist, piano, swimmimg, eye test & ice skating - chemist, supermarket & dropped stuff of at a charity shop). We talked about all sorts, all day in the car & whilst waiting etc but at lunchtime we sat mostly in silence each with our iPads. If looks could kill I'd be 6ft under. Poor child clearly gets no attention & no conversation πŸ˜³πŸ€”πŸ™„....whatever 😁

So Worra would judge away too, but hey ho 😁

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