I'm really struggling with my in laws at the moment and we've reached a point where I have to make an uncomfortable decision.
They are racist. Xenophobic too. Generally unpleasant. I've managed to have very little contact with them since DD was born 7 months ago and DH knows why. He accepts that they're a little out of order but they are his family and he excuses them sometimes.
Yesterday MIL and SIL turned up at my door. Came for a "chat" because it's time to Christen DD. All fine so far but 5 minutes into things they started. Casually throwing out racist slurs because SIL's 18 year old DD has a new friend who's mixed race. Moaning about all the immigration. Suggesting we build a Trump style wall to keep them all out.
I said nothing and they didn't stay long. Normally I can just forget it but DD's Christening. My DBro got married last month to the most wonderful woman who just happens to be from Poland. I don't give two shits because she is lovely and makes him happy. They're aware of this and have already "joked" about her getting until the country. Lots of my family and friends are of different races and nationalities. One wears a hijab. In laws are all from the same three street patch of village.
I have to have DBro there. But I think they have to be invited too. I can't trust them not to offend everyone and I don't want DD's day tainted.
AIBU to just cancel the whole thing? Not get her christened for fear of them ruining it?
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In laws, racism and christening. WWYD?
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Wigglyfoof · 19/08/2016 08:16
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